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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (14 September 2008):
 For 3 years she will be jail bait for you, this is when you turn 17. Can you go without having anything sexual to do with her? If not and you really don't want to end up behind bars, I would really think about this. I mean you'll have to go until you are like 20 yrs old, before you can legally have sex with her.
I know the age differs in some states, but I don't think it's by much. If anything, maybe a year.
Be careful and think
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reader, Laura-x  +, writes (14 August 2008):
No not at all, i went out with a 16 year old when i was 13 and everything was ok but i was mature for my age. Don't take advantage though as she is vulnerable at 13 and will most probably be crazy in love with you straight away xx
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (12 August 2008):
 I dont belive age to matter but I think at this age 13 people will feel it much to young love, You have to consider her family her friend your family your friends.. and if you really do care for this girl then you have to respect the fact she is under age sexually, I understand as Spiffeh says she has been with her b/f sinse she was 13 and I no of other girls who have that write to me. Its not veiwed in peoples eyes as right because she is still a child, Even though people now are dating so much younger. If she was 16 and you 19 or her 17 and you 20 as you get older it sounds more acceptable... And 3 yrs is nothing its the fact that she is only 13 that will be a big problem for you sweetheart, Girls can and do look so much older these days and she may appear to look grown but she is still a child in the eyes of the world love.. This is said with only your best interests and the young womans at heart love, Without judgment as I speak to alot of girls that want to go out with young men of 16 and they are hurting because its not looked upon as right at all, I understand from both veiw points love but she is a minor..Think about it hunny its not the age gap its the actual age, Alot of people would say you are this and that and it wouldnt be very nice for either of you as its not funny to be called a pevert I dont think that to be a funny word at all or peadophile, Really not nice..I dont think any young girl would think this funny as it would hurt to be viewed as this on your part..And I no many young girls of this age that are going out with older boys they do get upset if there b/f is called these awfull names. I try to help and understand sweetheart but also try to get them to understand that they may feel older and ready but really they are still so very young, I very much understand as Ive spoken to so many girls and I really do feel for every one of them but at the same time I want them to be safe and grow a little first and to understand they are still very much under age..TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): If my 13yr old sister was dating a 16yr old, yes me and my freinds would think he was a pervert. Like I said before on this site, your just be starting college while she just be starting high school, other aunts do you realise that?? It's wrong, I remember being 16 and 13 and it's not right
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): The age may not matter to both of you, but what about her family....or your family?
Though I must know....do you want to be with her just to have someone to mess with or do you honestly like/love her?
I am only asking because alot of guys your age just want someone to mess with.....and that can honestly break a girls heart....so please be careful if she gives you her's.
I send the best of luck and all my love!
And please don't forget to get back to us on those questions, if you could....thank you!
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (11 August 2008):
 No Gecko, you're not wrong. They don't have to stop dating when one of them hits 18. I think what icanhelpu is thinking is that if the guy performs anything sexual with her while she's still being a minor, he will go to jail, but it really isn't illegal to just DATE her.
But I pretty much agree with you Gecko. If an age difference that small actually troubles the person, then they should consider the relationship.
But I will give you a similar warning that icanhelpu gave you: just respect her body and don't pressure for sex until she's of legal conscent AT LEAST. I mean, you kids do whatever you want, it's your life and you can screw with it or not, but at least do it legally so that way you won't go to jail if her parents find out that you bed her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): I don't get it why people ask questions about age difference like that. If either one of you are uncomfortable with the 'age difference' then you'll need to reconsider about the relationship.
In all seriousness, 3 years isn't gonna do a lot is it?! I can kinda debate with icanhelpyou is saying about it has to stop when your 18. That can't totally be right surely coz ones gotta hit 18 before the other one in the majority of relationships even if they are the same age...
They don't have to just stop until the other one turns 18 surely?! Correct me if I'm wrong by the way...
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (11 August 2008):
 Dear Satan.
I don't ask for much asides from supernatural powers to creep out friends and family. But this is a big one, can i come home early? As being stuck here is worse than hell i'm surrounded by sexual preators, pedophiles and incestual cousins.
But serious.
age doesn't matter.
However. when you're after a minor.. ie: someone who is not of legal age to have sex.
long story short don't drop the soap in the showers when you're in jail.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (11 August 2008):
It probably doesn't matter to the two of you or your peers, but I'm sure it will matter to her parents. 13 is awfully young, but hey so are you. To each their own.
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reader, Spiffeh.. +, writes (11 August 2008):
 Nope. My boyfriend is 18 and im 15 i have been going out with him since i was 13 and he was 16 =] so we have been in the exact same position. He has been called a peadophile before but thats just nonsense! Lol =] x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): No,it doesn't.Just be aware that you have to stop dating her when you're 18.
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