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writes:Okay, so being the caring friend that I am, i really feel that I need to step in and help a mate, but first I need you guys to help me.Basically, my mate (I'll call him Bob for the purposes of this) has a female friend, Katie (again not her real name). Anyway, Bob and Katie are decent mates, but Bob is the clever, some would say "swotty" type, while Katie is a popular fashionable type, although she's not the typical stuck up type. I realise that sounds cliched but its the truth. Anyway, she sees him as a mate, but he likes her as something more. However, he's never had a girlfriend and will never ever tell her how he feels, no matter how much i try to convince him otherwise.So, my plan is as follows: send an anonymous email to her, telling her how Bob feels and telling her that she must let him down gently, but soon, because at the moment she's crushing him inadvertently every day. Problem is I'm not sure how best to phrase it and exactly what to say. Thanks in advance and by the way, don't tell me to get him to tell her himself, because believe me, I have tried and tried. Thanks again guys ;D PS we are all in Yr. 10 at high school, aged 15, if that helps at all.
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reader, Starmonster888 +, writes (30 May 2010):
 Yeah, it's like a room full dynamite and match-sticks, stay out of it. This is an example of a common mistake made by many good friends.They assume that their duty is stop the glass from breaking when, in reality, all they can really do is pick up the pieces when it does, if it does. Just be piece picker, other wise you might end up being the guy who tipped the glass over to begin with.
P.s. Good luck with your GCSEs dude.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): It's nothung to do with yoyu! Leave them
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 Yeh dude, just stay out of it for everyones sake. Don't send an annonymous email, they'll work out its you if they have half a brain and then you'll be in both of their bad books. He probably knows nothing will eventuate from their friendship, but he's obviously getting something from it to make it worth the pain. Friends aren't tattle-tails.
Best of luck :)
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reader, Lostaslight islostinlight  +, writes (30 May 2010):
I think an recieving an anonymous email telling me that someone likes me would be creepy. What would you even say? Just like, "Katie, Bob Smith wants you, signed anonymous"? If I were her, I would delete that sucker and look at Bob weird after that. I mean the Internet is so...unsanitary. It's not really an appealing place for a girl to make a looove connection. Plus she'll probably assume that bob wrote the email himself. Either way, if your trying to do this in a way that retains Bob's dignity entirely, just stop.
Look, you're 15 years old. You're at the prime age for helping your friends hook up. I say YOU just waltz up to Katie and just say, "Oh right yes Katie, well the thing is Bob rather likes you, but being rather 'spotty' he 'asnt got the balls to tell you himself. Whaddya think of that?" Or however you would say it in your British way of speaking. It may not be ideal, but at least you'll know where she stands. You report what she said to bob. If he gets mad at you, tell him you were trying to help two friends out, and at least now he can forget about it. If Katie doesn't feel that way about Bob then they can keep being just friends. you said she wasn't stuck up, so hopefully she won't be weird around him after that.
At least Bob will be able to move forward from this, whatever the case.
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reader, loops +, writes (30 May 2010):
I'll be honest I would personally keep well out of it! You are medalling where really it is none of your business. Yeah feel free to bolster bob's confidence so he will be able to tell her himself, but directly telling her is unfair on them both. She may not be ready to handle the information and you could end up damaging their friendship. I would leave it down to them two to work it out and just support your friends, rather than potentially causing trouble between them. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): Let me tell you something. Don't ever get yourself in the middle of two people for whatever reason. This is between them. If it goes badly you will be getting it from both sides.
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