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writes:I recently finished my degree after 5 years of education. I put a lot of effort into my education rather than the social side and didn't really make a lot of friends, I also continued to work. During my degree I have had a lot go on emotionally, and I have had to support my partner and his little boy financially which I have not minded, and my family have needed my help as my parents have got divorced. I also have been ill. All this has meant that I have either had to avoid socialising because I couldn't drink/ or was ill at the time, or I have chosen to to put my family first.Although I have no regrets as to the way I have done things, now that my degree is over, I don't have a full time job yet, and am finding having so much time is actually making me quite unhappy. I feel completely isolated and lonely, and very bored, I'm used to having something to think about and sitting and doing nothing all day really isn't doing much for me at all. I can't afford to have any kind of major hobby either. Can anyone suggest something, or is anyone of a similar temperament, as I want to avoid getting so fed up i start making things to worry about just for something to think about (i have a habit of this).
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 Chech Meetup.com and look for Meetup groups in your area. They are free or with minimal fees. They are very informal,self managed gropus that meet generally once a week to share an interest- there are tons, from movies to music cuisine books sports anything. And if you don't find what you want in your area ,you can start your own group, they will help you advertising and setting it up for free.
Volunteer. Taking an interest in other people 's problems prevents you from obsessing too much about yours.
If you can afford it, join an acting class. There's nothing like acting for getting you out of a rooy and cet your cretaive juices flowing. Acting is very empowering and is great for slightly depressed,unsatisfied people.. because you get to live all sorts of different lives from yours.
And read. You can borrow books for free from libraries. Not very social, Ok- but healing. Books have been my faithful companions all my life, and have sort of preserved my mental sanity in times of stress and trouble, and no, i am not a loner or a hermit, not at all. But we should not always depend on other people for recreation, shouldn't we ?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 Do something crazy. If you can't afford something crazy, do some volunteering. Plenty of places need people who have spare time, and spare time is ALL you need to join. Organizations, political parties, activists of any sort, churches, youth centers, anywhere. Just go to whomever you feel you would be most comfortable with and tell them you would like to help out if they need you. This way you will be occupied, you will meet new people, and make connections. You dont even have to be committed to the cause (unless its a political party) as long as you sympathize with the importance of the work this group is doing.
So think about it, is there anything you have always had a passion for? Something you are interested in, or find important in society? Go out there and find that group, place, organization, that share those values with you.
Here's a list of things I joined in at a time or another. Sometimes I did it because I needed things to do, like you, other times because I wanted to meet new people, and many times because I want to contribute to society.
Amnesty International
UN-groups
Church-volunteering
Teen-clubs administrated by the church
Organization for women in home security (which means a lot of camping and I now know how to handle a rifle..)
Political parties (Ive changed between several as of fact)
Drawing groups
I once made a group for training bunnies in jumping fences
There is a lot of variety! I am positive you will find something that fits YOU!
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