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30-35,
*oniqueEE
writes:I've been having problems with a girl who liked my then boyfriend. Basically she's been a real pain towards me and now that we've broken up she's continued.Last night me and my ex were hanging out and I made him tell me what he was covering up because there had to be a reason why she was still loathing me. He told me that about 3 weeks after we broke up, she had thrown herself at him. He took her virginity and now she's basically going crazy. She's violent towards him, throughout our whole relationship she hated him for dating me. I completely understand how she feels, I just don't understand why she would give something so special up so easy? I'm also not happy with him for sleeping with her but he's a guy, single so whatever.My real concern now is why he still wants to sleep with me? I've asked him and he says he doesn't know, he just feels comfortable with me and enjoys it. When we hang out its so relaxed, he even gives me foot massages and tells me everything. It's more relaxed now rather than when we were together and I don't know why. I'm also not angry that he slept with her, I feel it was a long time coming and really its his life.Why do I feel like this? I'm not annoyed, a little upset because it seems like I didn't really matter but then I look at him and knowing him he wouldn't turn down an easy lay. But why am I relaxed about it? We used to have sexual tension, we relieved it but now when he's around me he cant keep his hands to himself.What do you think? Strange situation? Is he just a moronic guy? Is she just crazy? Or should I keep doing what I'm doing and not let it get to me? ... To be honest, its so much easier this way :)
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reader, straight to the truth +, writes (30 May 2010):
This girl does sound a little crazy and if you can ignore it the simply cotinue to do so. to be honest the fact that your ignoring it is probably driving her a little more crazy lol. she has given up something special to her and she has probably made the very stupid mistake of thinking if she gives him sex he will want to be with her....unfortunately thats not how it works.
you seem to have everything sorted in your head, you are still friends with him and if you want sex have sex if you dont then dont. if you happy with this and you dont mind the fact he is sleeping with other people then everything is fine.
you just need to respect the fact that when the time comes and he has another girlfriend you will most likely have to back right off and leave him alone for the sake of the mental health of the new girlfriend.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 He was single for 3 weeks and his first experience being back on the dating market was to wind up with a crazy, violent, clingy girl... and you're surprised at his change in behavior?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): Why does he want to still want to sleep with you? Sweetheart because he wants sex.
Why are you not upset that he slept with her? Maybe you are just not the jealous type.
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reader, joo23  +, writes (30 May 2010):
 i think you should let him go cause he is also like you Confused between the 2 of you and he should choose so you have to give some space or if your happy with your situation keep on until something happen!!!
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