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writes:Hi all,I have been with my gorgeous girlfriend for a few years now, and she has suffered with a disability all of her life which is quite painful, and which I have more than supported her through.But on a recent night out I had a blazing row with her twin sister over the fact that she was telling people about her sister's disability which caused my girlfriend much upset.I basically asked her why she felt the need to tell people about this, and how its causing upset.. to which I was told that she was just venting.. but then the twin also told me that "Its nothing to do with me.. my opinion doesnt count in any way.. and that I should just shut the hell up and keep out".I was furious, because even though I care deeply for my girlfriend.. I find it very hard to work full time, and care for my girlfriend.. and do many things like all of the cooking, cleaning, pick her up and drop her to work etc.Unfortunately we were staying at the twin sister's house that evening so it made things rather awkward.. the twin made a half attempt at an apology the next day, but I feel that she was put under pressure by her boyfriend to do so.I am a very sensitive person, and find it hard to not hold a grudge, but I am finding this most difficult... thankfully we live about 1 hour's drive away, but my intention is to not see them again, atleast for quite some time.I have no idea what I have done to deserve the hate she has given me, and would appreciate any advice on this.Many Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the replies folks.. this has really help atleast to centre me, so I know that im not alone in my views..
Thankyou thankyou :)
@thenotsogreat
The sister isnt a bitch, atleast never to me before.. but I have always known of her ways.. I guess my time had come to fall afoul of her... I also think she feels threatened by me as im renowned for fighting my corner, and defending by mine and my girlfriends interests.
@StarMaiden
Thankyou for your great support.. I will carry on as I am, but as you have advised, I will not hold on to the events that transpired.. the distance sounds like a great idea. My girlfriend is due for surgery in january and will be house bound for several weeks.. so like it or not this will provide a break from thier family, good or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2009): Is it normal for the sister to be so nasty?
maybe she is just a b#$%^. Ive met plenty of them.
However she could just be venting and perhaps just let some things slip.
The Best thing for you to do is let it go. Stay away from her for awhile, and just be nice in the future. Your gf would appreciate it Im sure and afterall who is more important to you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2009): It sounds like you are doing all of the right things to support your girlfriend and I applaud you for your efforts. You are within your rights in my opinion to take a stand on this issue; and to feel upset by the insensitive comments made by your girlfriends sister. Personally I think the issue is with her (the sister) and you should not hold onto the inappropriate comments made by her since they seem to be coming from an angry place. It would be best to create some distance from her if she can not appreciate what you are doing for her sibling and treat you with te respect that you deserve.
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