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writes:This is a conversation between me and my ex. hes 19 and im 16. we were talking about visiting each other, we live in different states now, and he is coming here at the end of the month. please read!him: "how many guys have you had sex with since me?"me: "only one and it was only for about 10 seconds and i made him stop"him: "why? hahahaha ive had sex like twice i think"me: "cuz it hurt"him: "did he even finish when u guys did it?"me: "i ended up just.... doing something else.... for him bc i didnt want to keep going"him: "i wouldve been mad"me: "if i kept going i wldve ended up crying..."him: "well youre prob gonna cry when we do it then so start fingering yourself now"me: "what?"him: "thats all on you pookie"me: "what do you mean?"him: "if you start crying or not is on you bc im not stopping haha"me: "really?"him: "uh yes lol"me: "crazy...."him: "its gonna beee"me: "im sooo tired. ttyl."him: "goodnight"am i being over dramatic or is he insensitive?? im kind of hurt by what he said.... do i have a right to be? please help. advice and insight needed. thank you.
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reader, bin_real  +, writes (16 July 2010):
straight answer galfrend,he doesn't care about how u feel.case summarised,so its up to u....
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone. i know he is very immature & it would take me weeks to explain all of the drama ive been thru with him. i really thought i loved him tho and he played with my heart and my head for about 7 months, always making me feel bad about myself and making me cry. i cant believe i was gonna let myself fall back into this! im jus going to stop talking to him all together, he is not worth my time anymore. oh and @andre23: he is extremely good looking. i got caught up in his innitial charm and made myself overlook how bad he was treating me in our relationship. im not even sure what made me stay and stay attracted to him honestly. thanks again!
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reader, andre23 +, writes (13 July 2010):
My advice to you is don't have sex till you're over 18, and if you must use protection. I am mostly wondering by the conversation that you showed, wtf makes you attracted to him? he seems very immature!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 July 2010):
 I think he was joking... but it's such a rude, crass, moronic joke that you should be disgusted, not just kind of hurt.
Btw,why are you discussing the intimate details of your life with an ex ??? Why is he supposed to know if and when and for how long you were penetrated ???You've got to put clear,strong boundaries,if you don't want peope overstep them and make you feel "kind of hurt".
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reader, LilPixie  +, writes (13 July 2010):
 Stay away from him! Sounds like he only views you as a sex object, not a person.
Any guy that cares about the girl they're sleeping with will stop if she says it hurts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): A decent guy will stop immediately if this happens. You should confront him over this, or just dump him. By the way, are you talking about masturbation or sex? I'm a bit confused here.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (13 July 2010):
 Sweetie, you would do well to stay clear of this one. He obviously doesn't have your best interest at heart and truly won't care if he hurts you or causes you discomfort. His only interest is making himself feel good. Definitely NOT a keeper. Do yourself a favor and cut off things before they even get started again. Guys like this are not worth shedding one single tear over.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 July 2010):
Oh dear. You've picked a lemon. This is a very good reason for him remaining an ex boyfriend. Joking or, the level of immaturity and the lack of care he had for you shows him up. So I'm hoping unlike some other teenage posters on here of late who have not listened, you'll listen when I tell you that this is a man you should avoid. You can do better than a man who makes fun of your pain and show less understanding than a pebble sat on a beach. Don't let guys like this into your life.
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