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female
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41-50,
*hedollmaker
writes:My boyfriend and I have been "seeing" each other for six months, most of that time he has been deployed. For the entire six months we talk almost every day - if he got really busy for a day or two he would send brief notes and say he was busy and would write when he could - it was never more than two days before I heard from him again.He had two week leave recently, we spent the first day and the last day together, the rest of the time he had A LOT of traveling to and people to see and he hardly contacted me at all, I got text messages here and there but that was it. And he thanked me during and after his trip for being so understanding and not making a big fuss about not getting a lot of his time. He left a lot of his stuff here at my house, military gear and a couple prized possessions and he told me we would email again when he got back to his base but he would be really busy and couldn't promise times.He emailed after he had been back a day, it was short and to the point and said he was really tired. That was three days ago, in the meantime he has been online in forums about his hobby (he's super easy to follow online and I know I shouldn't check up on him but I'm a girl so I do. He's never, ever posted anything about other women in fact he's told some people that I am the love of his life in these forums and literally he spends ALL fo his free time focused on this hobby) Anyway he's been posting really, really long blogs and essays about his hobby and how much of it he worked on on leave. So he's had plenty of internet access for the last three days. I've only emailed him twice - really basic stuff and asking him how he is adjusting to being back...nothing whiny or clingy or anything about "us" and he has not responded to any of it.So any ideas on why he hasn't written me in three days and should I ask him where we stand and what the silence means (I've already asked how he was doing a day ago and I've had no response), he's never justt gone silent and disappeared but do I take it as a sign and move on?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (13 July 2010):
It's only been three days, so don't panic yet. It could just be that he's up to something else and is a little too engrossed in it. Give him time. Even if it is over, at some point he will have to pick up his stuff. So the truth will come out. But just for now, relax a little, because it's far too soon to be able to tell anything.
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