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writes:Ok im a male and 24 and this girl is 21. I dont know if this helps anything but I havent had alot of relationships with girls. so sometime I dont know how to act around them like when to make moves or stuff. Im a good looking guy so ive been told but being the nice guy i am i get in the friend zone alot. Ok so I met this girl through friends of my cousin. She is so beautiful and has a great personality. she was just going through a divorce cause the guy cheated on her and got the guy pragnent. so we hit it off I took her to lunch on a saturday and basically we hung out the whole weekend 4 different times that weekend. she also invited me to church a couple of times. So her birthday was coming up a few weeks after I met her and she invited me and my cousin to dinner and after dinner I was gonna hangout with her alone but my cousin taged along and he basically stoled the show me and her were play pool and he was all up close to her trying to teach her how to play pool and he talk to her alot so basically I felt like i was the third wheel. we hung out a few times after that. my cousin the whole time messed with my head he basically pressured me into telling her i like her and stuff too early. so basically she told me that she still wanted to hang out with me but needed time. so then I figured id messed up with her so I stopped trying to talk with her. then a little while later I found out I cousin hooked up with her without even talking to me. So a few weeks ago she texted me and asked how I was and stuff and told me she was sorry about being with my cousin and she broke up with him. She thinks he cheated on her so that would be two guys cheating on her. So she wants to hang out with me again but she says she wants to be friends and that im fun to be around and and a great guy. so ive hung out with her a couple times. I told her Im fine with being friends and the she is one of the most Beautiful girls ive seen and she has a awesome personality. Thats when she told me the stuff about me being a great guy and stuff. We just went to a concert together with one of her friends and she bought me a drink and was all touchy feely with me and no she wasnt drunk. I think are personalities match great we pick on each other all the time. I dont know what to do. Id really like some help please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010): Here is some solid advice...I've been there with the woman "going through the divorce" thing (and she was hot and hot for me as well).
Don't do it. Forget about her and don't hang out with her. Tell her when her divorce is final, final...not pending, that she can call you if she likes.
She's just playing now, and she likes the attention and she likes the drama at some level. Nothing for certain, but like a prior poster mentioned "rebound", her spouse cheated and she is getting affirmation of her worth sexually, etc, and beautiful women often need a lot of affirmation particularly after they have been so "beautiful" and yet they still get cheated on.
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reader, Charger +, writes (18 October 2010):
Charger is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthat was a little bit after I stopped talking to her so maybe she was ready then but She said he is a charmer. How am I suppose to be a charmer? I also didnt make any moves the first time cause she was going through a divorce. so I guess i was being too nice. I should of kissed her the first time around we hung out but over thought things. Me and her make fun of each other all the time so im not always nice. How do I stop being the nice guy? like what do I do? Do I pay for her when ever we hang out or make her pay. like me and her are going to another concert later this week and to see Dane Cook in December. I paid for the tickets but she is paying me back. Im pretty she she is also hanging out with other guys so im not the only one hanging with her I think. I know that doesnt matter. She didnt get to know the real me fully the first time we hung out months ago so Im trying to let her get to know me better now. So even though she wants to be friends I should still try to kiss her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): She likes the attention you are giving her. Stop being such a nice guy. You like her, have feelings for her. Either she feels the same way or she doesn't. If you hang out again, make a move. Kiss her, sleep with her, something. If she puts the brakes on again and tells you she just wants to be friends, then that's your sign that you are just a fall back. A guy to give her attention when it doesn't work out with another guy. Why would she be ready to hook up with your cousin but not with you?
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reader, Charger +, writes (17 October 2010):
Charger is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo she hasn't talked about her ex alot at all but that was the first period of time we hung out and shouldn't matter about the divorce now. We stopped hanging out in March and just a few weeks ago got back in contact with me. Why did she get back in contact me and now all touchy feely after she told me she just wants to be friends? I do like her alot so I am just hanging with her and touchy geeky on her too but she starts it. Like she will touch my leg, arm, face, hat. And the concert we went to we sat at a table and she would kick my leg and one point are legs were touching and she didn't move her leg. After the concert when we were gonna go home she hugged me she squeezed tight. I'm just confused with her.
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reader, Cccc  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 Well if she was just going through a divorce then she might just be on rebound.Thats why shes taking things so fast especially if shes bouncing from relationship to relationship.The betrayal of someone cheating on you leaves really deep wounds and its not easy getting past the mending time.Does she talk about her EX allot or compare what he would have done in a situation?
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