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writes:yesterday, this boy i know told me that he really liked me, i kind of guessed from the way he always is with me; constantly talking to me, hugging etc. i was flattered, but had to say no for certain reasons. i thought and everyone else thought he was actually gay, from the way he is, but maybe not.he's a lovley guy and i still talk to him, the thing is, i have a boyfriend and i love him to pieces, and i don't see this other gy in the same way. he keeps trying to meet up with me, wanting me to go back to his, not in a pushy way, in a really friendly way which is why i find it hard to say no so bluntley and have to keep making up excuses. eventually i'm goig to run out of them and won't know where to go from there.any suggestions of how i could maybe let him down gently? and not have to meet up with him?thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, shiraz +, writes (5 September 2008):
hiyah, this guy is supposed to like you so should respect your wishes, is he aware you have a bf? this way he might push off. he obviously really likes you though so let him down gently. Although your friendship will not be quiet the same youve got the message across and thats the main thing, in time things might return to normal but you have tounderstand how hes feeling so try to do it in the nicest way possible (if there is one!) Best of luck- and yur bf should be proud sum girls love any attention off a male boy and not many fight off afection so well done for being the loyal honest one and setting this guy straight you must really luv yur bf- :) hpe it goes ok
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (5 September 2008):
 Tell him what you told us now; it sounded very gentle to me.
Tell him that you "already have a boyfriend that I love to pieces. I only see you as a friend and nothing more, so I would like to stay like that because I value your friendship a lot"
He might feel down at first but when you mention his importance, friendship-wise, in your life, he might get over it and accept it.
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reader, Shelljade41  +, writes (5 September 2008):
 Just let him know your feelings in a gentle but firm way. He is not so cool after all, if he knows you have a boyfriend you love and is still after you??
Blessings dear!! :)
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