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writes:My friend hooked me up with her ex *joe and we have been going out for two weeks now. he is 15 and im 14. he already said he loves me and i fell for it.now all he ever wants to talk about is sex.i thought i wanted it but now im not so sure. he is starting to scare me. he keeps pressuring me to send him nasty pics and when i tell him no he gets really mad. and he knows where i live. he might do something to me if i tell him its over. how do i break up with him?
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reader, lil miss blond3 her answerin ur questions  +, writes (13 March 2010):
 it sounds like he does not love you,
don't let him have the advantage of scaring you.
you have friends/ family that will protect you and help you i assume ?
if you don't want to have sex with him, you really shouldn't, do not let him force you.
he dose not care about you if he's forcing this onto you.
id break up with him nicely and be sensitive about it,
be in a public place if your that scared he will do something.
then if he starts getting nasty find help.
you shouldn't have to put up with this from him.
hope i helped. :)
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reader, wild orchid +, writes (10 March 2010):
 well hes using you just for the sex. he doesnt loves you. he doesnt deserve to date a girl like you. you guys are young to be having sex. by all means dont have sex with him, because you are gonna wind up getting dumped. so since you wanna break up with him. just tell him you are not ready to handle a relationship you are only 14 as well as you are not ready to have sex. by all means bring someone you can trust like a family with you the day you break up with him. because if you fear for you life then hes capeable to do something. but do not talk to him alone. also tell him the truth. dont be afraid to speak the truth. if he doesnt like it then oh well his intentions are not to be trusted. because a major percent of teens these days all they want is sex and then leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2010): Hey there
If you are scared of him honey there is something wrong. You know reading this that you want out. You don't need to agonise over how to tell him, if you are scared it doesn't matter how - you can do it over the phone. Don't meet with him. I also think you should tell someone about how you feel. Never feel pressured into sex. You sound sensible. Please let us know how you get along. I suggest you keep a diary if he bugs you. Hopefully he will get over it pretty quick.
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reader, Yarou  +, writes (10 March 2010):
 Go tell your parents what hes doing so that they will keep an eye on you for some time and tell your friends to stay closer to you.
And tell him its over.
Im your age. i had the same problem.
my boyfriend was even worse than that but i never actually trusted him. he said he will come after me and stuff but he was trying to frighten me dont worry nothing will happen to u .
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2010): This won't be the last time you deal with guys who are pushy for sex and sexual things. You will eventually have to learn to stand up for yourself or you will be ridden by every guy in town. Sexual desirability gives you power and this is the responsibility you will need to learn to handle it. So I suggest you start standing up for yourself right now and tell him to back off. Respect yourself or nobody else will. Lots of guys will push you as far as you let them. Eventually most guys become at least a little bit pushy, if not as bad as this guy is. (He sounds like bad news.)Eventually even the naturally less-pushy guys get tired of watching other girls reward the pushier guys with more sex, and even they start getting a little more aggressive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2010): you dont need to have sex after 2 weeks thats all hes after
he also sounds like a wierdi saying he loves you this early
and what hes doing is a form of woman abuse and its illegul not to mention in the sence that ur not 16 aswell but i lost my v at 14 so nevermind.
introduce him to his hand and tel him thats all hes going to have to play with till your redy... personaly ide leave him tho... ano that can b hard in situations like that but your only young so itl b easyer to deal with
dont let any man controll u respect them and be a lady but dont be any1s doormat
xxx
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reader, babymonkey422 +, writes (10 March 2010):
 If it were me, I would tell my parents or an older sibling what's going on. Now of course I don't know how your relationship is with your family and if it would even be ok if they knew you were dating or whatever but if you really are afraid he might do something to you to harm you in some way I would definitely let someone know so they can keep an eye out for you, you know? After that you can be honest with him and tell him it's not working out and you do care for him but you feel like all he wants is sex and you're not ready for that. Also tell him that you feel he's not respecting your decisions because he keeps on pressing you and you don't deserve that. You deserve respect. Go you for respecting yourself hun!! :)
Point is, there's no easy way to break up with someone, just be honest and do what you feel is right and in this case get someone you can trust involved to protect yourself ok? Good luck!!!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 March 2010):
Tell your parents what he is doing, then break up with him and have a friend nearby who can make sure you're okay. Just tell him it's over.
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reader, Jade87 +, writes (10 March 2010):
Hi firstly dont you rush into having sex you are young and there is plenty of time for that. Also dont have sex unless your confortable and you want to.This guy sounds like a nasty piece of work and if he makes you feel scared of him you need to leave him straight away. Im sure you got some family or friend you can tell about your situation because if you dont deal with this it will get worse. You need to tell him that you are not ready and that you are to young for such as serious relationship.
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