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writes:My boyfriend won't go down on me because he doesn't like the way it tastes. I have never had this complaint before from past boyfriends, and I take care of myself with hygiene. What should I do? It is the only way I can climax... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): I think the 'he doesn't like the taste' crap it a cop out. Nobody's business tastes like freaking icing. We're talking about genitals here! If he didn't like the taste before, he's not going to like it later, so he'll have to get over it.
Here's my suggestion. Give him a blow job at a most unexpected time. Be incredibly enthusiastic. Bring him to orgasm and lick up every drop like a ravenous wolf. In the afterglow...and make sure your "tone" is positive...ask him, "Do you know why I give you head?" (He may look puzzled or nod or whatever but just continue) -"I do it because I know you love it. If you ever want to try it on me again, I promise I'm going to love it too." Then drop it. Don't mention it. My guess is he may just rip your panties off right then and there. You weren't threatening. You already told him you're going to like it. He may feel slightly guilted into reciprocating, but he'll be so glad he did because of the appreciation you shower him with when he's done. He's a man! He wants to conquer! Just try to make pleasing you a pleasurable experience for him!!!!!!! If he loves you and wants to please you (and you'll find that most men DO want to please you), he'll pony up and get the job done. Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): i have the same problem,
its hard to deal with and i have tried to come to terms with the fact it isnt going to happen, even if it is frustrating.
I love him enough to see past it, it is more dificult than first percieved because all you can think of is " how is this fair?"
If you love the guy enough, you'll except it and try and find new ways to express how you feel and climax.
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reader, ptownpetey87 +, writes (14 January 2008):
 i have that in common with your BF.. i didnt enjoy doing it either... i started chewing mint gum... couldnt taste it... and it has a menthol effect on the clit... my GF LOVES IT!!! now its more of a game to me, and i can be down there for hours... with or without gum
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (12 January 2008):
 Also, in my opinion feeding him shell fish won't do much good, personally I've never made that connection...
Asking him to do it with a mint it a better idea, if he says no to that he's either selfish or has some sort of a phobia.
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reader, jm81690 +, writes (12 January 2008):
Personally I never saw fault with going down on girls.
Sure the taste isn't great, but if a girl is willing to give me oral, well I doubt us guys taste any better. So eye for an eye in my opinion.
Most guys who complain to me about it just complain about the taste, I have one friend who described it as tasting like genitals. Which I suppose makes sense.
Do you go down on him? If so, tell him he has to give to recieve.
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reader, shikari424  +, writes (11 January 2008):
Girls don't generally taste nice down there. But some guys are willing to go through that for their girls. There's no reason to dump him solely because he won't go down on you!
I'd definitely do the getting him drunk thing. And what i always used to prefer...if you get in the shower and run the water down your body over your clitoris while he's going down on you, he won't taste a thing. I actually used to enjoy doing that to my ex!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): I don't remember any of my past girlfriends having any smell or taste if clean, at least not before intercourse. I know that my wife doesn't have any smell or taste, even if it's been 8 or 10 hours since she showered. Perhaps my nose and tongue are dead, but I don't think so. One of my girlfiends also could only have an orgasm with oral. My wife also cannot have an orgasm with intercourse, except when I lick her ear in the missionary position. That's the only position to easily do that and it allows penetration from angles that allow her clit to be stimulated. Her ear is very sensitive. Perhaps you have a sensitive spot that is accessable during intercourse.
In any case, sex is not going to be very enjoyable for you if you never have an orgasm, so you either need to find a solution or find a different boyfriend. I know that love and affection can overcome a lot of deficiencies, but never having an orgasm is probably too much to overcome.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (11 January 2008):
 Hi
Unfortunately if he doesnt want to do something you cant force him. Try and find other things that can please you. If you love each other then nothing should really matter. You both just need to compromise. Do you go down on him?
Regards,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): Well there are lots of things that may be going on in your relationship,that are not spelled-outL like how long does he take before he has his orgasm? Is he PDQ,has his orgasm, when he is inside your vagina? And can he get an erection and keep that erection long enough to get it in, and then maintain.that erection for quite awhile. Only one woman out of three can have an orgasm with penile-vaginal stroking. You just may be one of the two who can't have an orgasm with intercourse,and if he, or you, also used finger stimulation of your vagina at the same time,then your clitoris would be getting the needed direct stimulation and you'll have great orgasms. Me I am up in years,so my joy-toy don't always come through for me. Now, It use to really bother me,as there were times when it said, "Hell! No I won't go". Boy!, That's one hell of a downner for any man's ego. So, Perhaps he is having an erection problem,and neither of you are aware of what's going on,sexually speaking. Every man has an upper Dick,that won't let him down. And as for me,Well,I love doing oral. But most of all,I know that my tongue won't let either of us down. And she never fails to have a great orgasm or many orgasms, one right after the other. My, Guess is that he is having his orgasms, even if your sexual needs are not being met. As for your, so called, vaginal taste that's a lots of bull,as I see it. My only complaint is if my wife uses soap before I go down on her, like the natural, heavenly taste of a woman's vagina. Hope this has been helpful to the both of you,Please let him read this E-mail, and you two do work things out between you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): Perhaps you need to introduce a few snacks into his diet, things like oysters, mussels, and the real biggie: dried calamari (get it at Asian shops).
To my knowledge, these all taste a little like a woman -the dried calamari is quite remarkable for its similarity.
If he doesn't like the flavours of these, he isn't going to like going down on you. If he eats them with no hesitation, then it isn't anything to do with you - it's about him and his hang ups.
Good luck!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (11 January 2008):
 Another way it to pop a mint inside his mouth while doing orals.This would musk the smell and taste.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (11 January 2008):
If you still love him , you need to have patience with him.You can make your own self come or show him how it can be done with his fingers or get those vibrators.
If he does not like the taste, you can pour ginger ale ,honey whipped cream or anything to make it sweet and tasteful.
You could also get him high on alcohol and he would perform that task and then will get used to it.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (11 January 2008):
 Yep, sorry to be blunt, but if he won't go downtown its time to move on. This will just get more and more frustrating for you especially as its the only way you can cum, and I bet my bottom dollar that this guy expects you to perform oral on him.
Sorry, he sounds like a selfish jerk who is only interested in pleasing himself during sex, do you really want a future with this guy?
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (11 January 2008):
 Quick answer: Get a new boyfriend!
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