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writes: I've recently began having sex with my boyfriend, and I went on the pill, so we could have unprotected sex together (as we know we have no STIs and are regularly checked anyway). Yet, now I've decided to not be on the pill, as its easier if he just wears a condom...But he hates them.He says it takes longer to orgasm, and it doesn't feel as good. I don't like this, because I don't wanna be on the pill, but I want him to enjoy it... What can I do?
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reader, speedcat  +, writes (1 February 2008):
lots of men dont prefer condoms but its your body your choice!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (1 February 2008):
 No Glove, No Love - is a good policy until you get married. It will protect your future fertility. It does happen, I have a family member who is childless because of the HPV virus. Only synthetic condoms prevent disease, lambskin ones can pass viruses and should ONLY be used for contraception within a permanent relationship as they can't provide disease prevention. The thin latex ones are quite sensitive, like the one AndreC recommended. Guys will always complain, but if the alternative is NO SEX, they seem to go along with it...
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (1 February 2008):
 At 16-17 years of age he is damn lucky to be having sex to start with. Asking to have sex without a condom is madness, who the hell does he think he is.
Tell him no condom no sex
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reader, AndreC. +, writes (1 February 2008):
 try durex sensi thin it works for me
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): Well done for acting mature on this matter.
He needs to understand that you need to wear a condom to avoid pregnancy. You have both got the STD sorted by getting checked regularly but I do think you need to think of an alternative method of contraception for your own piece of mind. It sounds as if you are in a serious long term relationship with him and yes there needs to be some compromise. However, it is YOUR body AND if any mistakes happen you could be left holding the baby all in the name of him getting his way during a short term passionate session and he needs to respect your decision of no condom no sex. Simple.
However, there may be times in the heat of the moment when a condom is not worn and for your own piece of mind it would be better if you had sorted something else out. Example. What if the condom split....you could still get pregnant. Do you see where I am going with this!
Every woman have their own ideas on contraception and you may want a more natural approach with no drugs entering your body or you could be worried about all the side effects. Whatever the reason! If that is the case then stick to your guns of no condoms no sex, otherwise think of other options. The coil, the injection etc!
Good luck hun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): my boyfriends the same, he dont like condoms eitha. I say to him, dont use 1 4 about 10 mins then put one on plz. This usually works because it pleases both of u
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reader, openheart  +, writes (31 January 2008):
first well done on making such a mature decision on this one! u need to take precustions. alot of guys dont like wearing condoms because they say it takes away the sensation for them. but at the end of the day it is ur body and if u dont want to take the pill yet he wants to carry on having sex with u then he needs to wear a condom! maybe in time u will decide that u want to go back on the pill then he wont have to wear condoms anymore.but at the end of the day if he cares about u and wants to carry on having sex with u he will do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): like i said to my guy
no jonny no sex
end of.
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reader, Jugurtha +, writes (31 January 2008):
Love, the answer is simple.
Tell him 'No condom, no sex.' He'll soon come around to your way of thinking.
Tell him you don't mind him taking longer to orgasm as it means more fun for the both of you - sex doesn't only have to be about the big bang finale.
You could also try putting some lube under the condom to overcome his perceived lack of sensation.
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reader, Tweets +, writes (31 January 2008):
 There are many varieties of condoms on the market. Lambskin for one is very thin, and there are others. try experimenting and see if you both can find one that you both can enjoy and be protected at the same time.
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reader, Ne'cee +, writes (31 January 2008):
 Its your body, although you want him to be happy, you also want to happy yourself. You need to come up with some sort of compromise. Maybe you can get on the shot, or explore other birth control options like maybe the patch. In the end its really up to you.. Hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): well if he cares for you he'll wear the condom if you tell him you dont want to be on the pill
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