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writes:Me and my bf are both 19 and I feel that there is alot of inconsistencies in what my bf does and says. My bf has posters on his bedroom wall of half naked women. This really offends me. I find it degrading and disgusting and whenever I go over his house I have to be subjected to it. Yet despite him having these posters on his wall, he says that he has no respect for girls who wear short skirts/show alot of skin. How can he say that but find it ok to put posters of half naked women on his walls? When I told my bf the reason why I broke up with my ex was because he tried pressuring/forcing me into sex (I wanted to wait longer). he said he would never ever do that. He said he hates guys who try to pressure/force them into sex. But, on our first date he tried putting his hands down my pants and I said no and pulled them away. He did it again and again. After a few times he gave up. But, 2 months later down the track, he is more determined when it comes to sex. He continuly puts his hands down my pants and tries to take my clothes off after I say no and push him away. Its gotten to the point where he undresses me and lays on top of me and wont get off no matter how much I say no and try to push him off!! Its like nothing will stop him. Ive told him im in pain from how tighly he holds my wrists down, and how it hurts when he fingers me but he doesnt care. Ive even had a panic attackt and that hasnt put him off. I will yell at him to get off me but then he puts his hand over my mouth and yells at me to be quite (probably afraid his parents will hear). The only thing that works is if I say im about to vomit. He claims to be a strict catholic and his parents think hes a virgin. Apart from his naked women photos, his room is covered in pictures of Jesus and verses from the bible framed. I find it kind of sick that he could do what he does to me in a room like that where he tries to give off the image that hes a strong believer. When I met my bf I told him that im a non drinker, but dont mind other people drink (as long as its not an excessive amount). He said he was fine with it and that he didnt like drinking anyway and barely ever does it and if he does its in moderation. But when we hang around his mates, every story they tell about my bf is when he was completely off his face. I guess its obvious he has lied to me, but i find it hard to beleive and accept for some reason. I need some advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2008): I can't see any reason why you would want to be with this guy. Aside from his double standards his behaviour towards you during sex is completely unacceptable. You need to leave this relationship.
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reader, hdell  +, writes (20 September 2008):
Get out of that relationship as soon as possible!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (20 September 2008):
 Your boyfriend is a royal scum bag. Respect yourself and do what's best for YOU -- get out of this lame relationship. Your boyfriend has really scary habits, really backwards morals and is a liar. Whatever you think is good in this relationship - the BAD greatly outweighs it.
You are wayyyyy too good for this guy. There are so many men who will respect you, love you and make everyday feel better than the one before. Seriously, you will find a relationship where you feel safe, loved and beautiful. This guy - not the one. Pretty much a jerk 100%. Ditch the loser!
Take care of yourself, sweetness!
xx India
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): "Its gotten to the point where he undresses me and lays on top of me and wont get off no matter how much I say no and try to push him off!! Its like nothing will stop him. Ive told him im in pain from how tighly he holds my wrists down, and how it hurts when he fingers me but he doesnt care. Ive even had a panic attackt and that hasnt put him off. I will yell at him to get off me but then he puts his hand over my mouth and yells at me to be quite (probably afraid his parents will hear). The only thing that works is if I say im about to vomit."OK, please explain to me why you've stayed with this guy? He's acting like an immature 19 year old, AND, he's on his way to raping you. WHY, oh why, do you want to allow that to happen by continuing to date him, continuing to be in situations with him where such abuse can happen? Surely this guy's NOT such a hot catch? Surely you don't have such low self-esteem that you believe this is the very best you can do, especially at your very desireable age?...
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reader, candyluvsu01 +, writes (20 September 2008):
 you need to break up and get away from this guy....he could get so much worse than holding you down and it sounds like he will....
hes not a Catholoic....people who belive in god dont do those kinds of things....its all a show so he can look like a good little boy for his mommy and daddy....hes going to hell and he knows it....you dont sit in church and not think about your life and what your doing wrong it just doesnt happen.
to me it sounds like he cant tell the truth.....its called a compulsive liar....
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