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writes:Recently I have stopped being in love with my partner and we are just getting more and more distant how do I tell her that I'm no longer in love? Reply to this Question
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reader, kenny +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Like the other posts have said you have got to do it sooner rather than later. The longer you leave it the harder it will get. Sure she may be upset but at least in your mind you will know you diden't lead her on, and it will be a weight off your shoulders.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2007): There's no easy way to say it! Its better to say it now than drag it out any longer!!! I know cos I had to tell my ex fiance the same thing after nearly 9 years together...
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reader, LauraE +, writes (11 July 2007):
She will know already that things aren’t right. She may even want to say something herself. There is no easy way unfortunately because nice people find it very hard to hurt someone that they care for. Sit her down and tell her gently. Just say it how it is. You are fond of her, but it isn’t love any more like it used to be. You don’t say whether you live together. If you do, obviously this is harder. Will you be able to find somewhere else to go fairly quickly? If she does still love you, it wouldn’t be fair to hang around for weeks while you are looking. Don’t beat yourself up about how you are going to end it, you can only do your best.
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reader, 88jane +, writes (11 July 2007):
 i agree with the responses so far..you need to tell her asap. Its not fair on you or her to carry on in a relationship in which the love is fading. You both deserve to be happy and if this means that you need to be apart then so be it.
Telling her wont be easy...you need to be gentle and dont use the old "its not you its me" excuse even if thats true because women dont believe that. just be honest and gentle when you tell her but dont drag it out. you can still be friends after the love has gone.
Sure she will probably be upset and this is going to be so hard for you but eventually she will realise you did this because you dont want to hurt her and she will appreciate that! hope this advice helps. good luck and mail me if you need more help!
Jane xxx
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Hi there babes,
You say you have stopped loving your partner and your both getting more and more distant, she probably already senses this hun so you really have to be cruel to be kind in the long run, there is no easy way, be polite and caring towards her feelings but be honest she will respect you for it in the long run
Good luck
Love Donna x
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (11 July 2007):
 It's true, you do need to tell her soon because if you have any respect for her you will tell her now so that it would stop dragging her, and the relationship along.
It will be hard, I'm not going to deny that, but it needs to be done.
If you ever had any feelings for her, you need to tell her.
Sit her down and explain everything, I'm sure she'd appreciate your honesty rather than if you dragged it out.
Good luck and take care.
xx
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reader, love-him +, writes (11 July 2007):
 You need to tell her soon, beecause the longer you ar together the harder it will be to let go.. Explain you still love her as a friend but not enough to be in a relationship.. I hope i helped & good luck. Mail me if you would like to talk x x
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