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writes: I have been going out with this guy for about 7 months, I really like him. I think he is my first love. The only thing is we never talk in person; he gets too nervous. We hang around with the same friends but we never talk. I can talk to him by texting and instant messaging sevice called msn. It is started to really get me down. I don't want to break up but I don't know if I have any choice.Questions1. Should I just end it?2. If not how can I make him talk to me more?
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reader, loveable rogue +, writes (23 February 2006):
heyayour at school rite... thats describes just abou everyone in the worlds first 1 or 2 girlfriends at school. Hes shy, no worries just spend some time alone together, if he doesnt start to open up and your not having a goodtime you should end it, otherwise youl end up being together for the sake of it... and wouldnt that suck.good luck
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reader, Sweetie Pie +, writes (23 February 2006):
 Don't feel bad i am in a relashonship when at first we didn't talk or anything at all! So i can see how u feel...First of all u shouldn't dump him just because he doesn't talk to u.Thats just stupid!If u really like this guy talk to him,ask if he wants to hang out sometime,call and talk to each other on the phone.And if u really don't think hes trying or anything talk to him and tell him how u feel he might feel the same way! Good Luck!!!!!!
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reader, Viper  +, writes (23 February 2006):
 Hey ThereOk, just to say, us guys who were shy in school turn out to be superstars so stick with em, na I'm just kidding.You definately shouldn't end it with him unless there is no love between you.I've had dozens of girlfriends over the years,the first lets say, 3, i was pretty shy with, this is basically to do with school, I used to hold their hands in the playground and once we were outta school on our own watching a movie or having a meal, I'd just be comfortable talking with her.I have questions for you too though,Have you ever considered just when your hanging out with these friends to just grab him by the tie (if you kids still wear ties these days =S) and just have a conversation just you and him, if he's anything like us shy guys he may change his attitude towards you once you've done this.Hope I've HelpedViper
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2006): how old are you guys?u should just grab him take him somewhere quiet and ask him why he wont talk too you. maybe hes shy around your mates.good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2006): how old are you guys? u should just grab him take him somewhere quiet and ask him why he wont talk too you. maybe hes shy around your mates.good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2006): 1. Invalid question.2. Communicate with him. Tell him that it's getting you down that he's too pathetically nervous to talk to you in person, and you are considering breaking up with him. If he starts peeing in his pants, I'm sure you know what you should do then... 8|
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reader, beenthere +, writes (22 February 2006):
that's a good question. and if i had a perfect answer i wouldn't have found this site! first of all i don't think there is any need to break up with him. i live with my guy but we still talk more via text and stuff than face to face! have you tried being the one to start the conversation? do you get time on your own together? he might just not know what to say or feel uncomfortable with other people around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2006): It doesn't really sound like a relationship if he can't talk to you.Maybe you should try going out to see a film or something, as just the two of you. You can talk to each other directly (or try to) before and after the film. It would be an ideal date, as you are spending time with each other, but there's no need to talk if you're watching a film. If not, then you could try talking to him about it on MSN or something. Ask him about why he gets nervous and encourage him to open up to you. This should make him feel more comfortable around you. If it all fails, then all you can do is dump him.
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