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writes:I have been "just friends" with this guy for almost a year. We do everything together. And he at my house every night. We are really just friends nothing romatic at all. Although I want there to be more, he refuses. He says why can't we just grow old together. I want more. When I ask why? He says we have eveything but the sex, why do we need that. I keep telling him I want a relationship, but he says he like it the way it is. I don't want to lose him but I can't figure out why no sex, I mean he wants back rubs, neck rubs and foot massages. What do you think? What should I do ? Help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2009): Well,you should respect what he wants.If he doesnt want a relationship then there is nothing that you can do to change that.If you keep bugging him about a reltationship,then maybe he will stop talking to you or something like that.Then,your friendship will be ruined too.I hope this helps.
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reader, SoftlyCaress  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 It might be that he has a problem with getting a erection and is ashamed of it .Or might be that he isnt sexually attracted to you or any woman but isnt willing to step out about it .Dont however think bad of him because he doesnt want sex just make it clear to him that you are human and need sex and arent wanting to have just a relationship and no sex . Maybe you could even ask him what is going on and then ask if it is one the things i mentioned above to find out but you cant beat yourself up cause you desire to have sex . Make sure that you make it clear that you need , want it and arent happy with out it ...........
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