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*onicaC
writes:My boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me and I cannot continue to be with him. Am I doing the right thing by ending it? We fell in love and lived together for several months, but he had to move for job reasons. Ever since that time, we have been long-distance. For the first few months of that, things were fine. But, very soon, he started to avoid my phone calls, refuse to answer my text messages and make up lies about his whereabouts. I continually asked him what was going on and if he wanted to break up so he could see someone else and he repeatedly said "no" and he loved me. He asked that I give him a little space, but he did not want to break up.Finally, after several weeks during which I could not reach him and heard nothing from him, I called him late at night and heard the voice of another woman. He knew he was caught. I hung up after he sat there in silence for live 5 minutes.He admitted that he'd been sleeping with this girl and he said it meant nothing. But, he had been lying to me for months about it. I cannot get past it and I don't trust him anymore.Am I being too tough or does he deserve a second chance?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): some of you dont understand how hard it is to get over someone you loved so much. It hurts so much to know that you have been betrayed. it makes you feel not good enough, hurt, upset, mad, sad, and angry. but yet even through all that the guy has put you through you still love him. or maybe you dont, but you just cant let go of what used to be. Its hard.. to love someone that much and then find out what they did. he will probably say everything he can think of to make you take him back, but i wouldnt do that. If he is capable of doing it before he will do it again just not get caught.
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reader, MrOveranalysing  +, writes (8 June 2009):
Yep, get out of there. This guy sounds like a hot mess. It sounds like he's attached to you on some level, but not enough to respect you. By leaving him, you're doing him a favour, by making him realise that he can't behave this way. By being assertive you'll be a happier person, because you'll take back control. His behaviour is manipulative and immature. Cut him off, and only befriend him again if you're sure you're over it, if ever. But definitely get out!
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reader, MonicaC +, writes (8 June 2009):
MonicaC is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you so much for your answers. I KNOW I have to stay away from this guy now and I will. It's going to be hard not to answer his calls, but maybe he will grow up and realize what he lost. Too late for us now, but perhaps he will change for the next woman. I dunno. xoxo
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reader, shania +, writes (7 June 2009):
 Unless you can forgive and forget and move on,i think you will always wonder if he will cheat on you again? He said it meant nothing, but they always say that, maybe it was just sex on his part but he still lied to you, personally i would end it, because eventually it will eat you up inside.
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reader, kittykhaos +, writes (7 June 2009):
 "I cannot continue to be with him" There's your answer.
good luck no one deserves to play you and keep you x
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reader, MonicaC +, writes (7 June 2009):
MonicaC is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your honest and forthright answer. I KNOW you are right, but I loved him SO much. It's really hard to move on. Still, I know I must try.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (7 June 2009):
 Don't give cheaters a second chance! Stay away from him, you'll be doing the right thing! X
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