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writes:I've been in a 3 year relationship with my boyfriend. In the past we had a lot of problems because he lied to me and also had an emotional relationship with his ex. Everything was going really well until I recently found out that he is lying to me again. For instance he invites these girls on facebook and I don’t mind but he lies to me about knowing them and he tells me he did not invite them. Now suddenly he blocks me of and I am the only one who can’t see stuff on his profile anymore. I can’t even see my own post to him. I feel like he is starting to lie again. It makes me feel sad because he always invites these pretty girls with perfect bodies then he lies about them. I usually don't feel bad about my own body because I’m not fat or feel fat or ugly but now I do thanks to his behavior.What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): He is a liar and he is cheating thats why he wont add you or let you see his profile,i been in this situation and it will destroy you,dump his sorry scheming arse and get yourself a decent honest worth loving man i did and it was the best thing i ever did
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): Im just gonna agree to what everyone else has already said: he's a liar.
You could make a new profile with a random picture of a "pretty girl" and get friends with him so you can see what he posts and what the other girls are writing to him. I'd do that, maybe cus im too curious.
Good luck anyways!
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (2 December 2010):
 Three year relationship? He is lying to you. Adding "pretty girls" on Facebook, I personally think that if you are posting pictures of yourself half naked on the internet then you're more streetwalker than a "pretty girl."
I would leave your guy. Or at least ask him why he has blocked you on seeing his profile. What is he hiding that you can't see? I thought on Facebook a user had to approve someone as a friend anyway before they can be added to the friends. I don't understand why you are still with him after he has put you through so much bullcrap. If you ask him and he still lies to your face, then I would trap him or have a friend trap him like turbine suggested (really good idea by the way).
You deserve better.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 December 2010):
It's a safe bet that he's looking for other people, so you'd be better moving on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): There is a good man out there who will be genuine, support you and be loving and kind. And you deserve a kind loving genuine man in your life.
But that man above is not the current man.
After three years with your BF he has now reached enough blocking points to be blocked from your life.
He lies to you. He acts like a footloose and fancy free man without a girlfriend who has loved and supported him for the last three years. He's actively seeking out girls. And now he's excluding you from his 'other life'. Despite the fact that you've given him chances in the past.
How dare he block you. What's he ashamed of? What's he hiding?
He's throwing sand in your face and this is not acceptable.
And now he's undermining your confidence in you. This is not OK.
He's emotionally unsupportive towards you. His disrespect towards you is appalling. Tell him to keep his facebook. He'll have so much more time to look at his Facebook, once you decide to pack your bags and live elsewhere.
I know it's sad to walk away when you've put so much energy into this relationship for three years.
But honestly it is terrible that your Bf has ceased to support, love and treasure you. He certainly is not behaving like a loving caring BF. So i really hope that one day (soon) you get the courage to leave him..
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): I think your relationship has broken down and you should finish it and move on. Probably not what yopu want to hear but I can see little hope. Why would you want to be with someone who treats you so badly? You deserve better than this.
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reader, turbine  +, writes (2 December 2010):
He's not worth you. Why don't you become a fictatious character on facebook and trap him....or you could even use one of your friends to trap him. And then teach him a lesson. But he's not worth you.
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (2 December 2010):
 Well, ask him to unblock you. If he says he didnt then he is lying. The only good reason to block you is so that you dont see what is being said..or what he is saying to them? If he has lied, and now he is hiding things maybe its time to move on. No one should make you feel that way. Esp if you guys have been together that long. He shouldnt still be acting this way.
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reader, someone to help +, writes (2 December 2010):
hiyah hun, this all sounds really bad. But one thing before i advice you on the boy. DOn't think bad on yourself it is not your fault, if he is blocking you from his profile then it shows he has something to hide. Confront him properly if that doesnt work check the names of some of these girls and ask them yourself. But hun if you dont trust him and physically cant because of this then your relationship will never work. Relationships are built on trust just like friendship- without it there really is no point . Hope all works out for you , all the best,
someone who can help xx
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