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writes:Hello, my question is: have there been students who have married their teachers? (by the way, Im 15 years old, and my teacher whom I have a crush on is 30. He went out of the country to get a masters degree, but we remain in contact.) do you think there is still a chance that we may marry, or at least meet again?
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reader, girlylady  +, writes (27 July 2011):
First of all, ask yourself if you are really in love with this man. How old is he? Is he in his 20's, 30's. If you really love him, then have patience at least until your coming of age and tell him about it. Who knows, you may be soul mates. It's not excluded.
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reader, girlylady +, writes (25 July 2011):
If you two are meant to be together, if you are made for each other, and you are really in love with each other and this is not just a whim of yours, then yes, I personally think you may be together one day, of course after you become legally an adult. You will be 18, he will be 33. Of course you must have a lot of patience until then, so that you don't put him in legal troubles, and you must also have a lot of courage and determination to tell him what you feel for him. If you keep in touch until you turn the majority age/18 then you can tell him and see what happens. If he doesn't share your feelings, at least you will know it and you won't live in illusions anymore. But if he does feel the same, then good for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2011): marieclaire has it exactly right. You're 15. This is a crush. No more. And don't try to make it any more. Intense feelings for someone is a part of life. You need to learn to deal with it and apply good judgement.Move on. Control those feelings. Find yourself other things to do and think about. You could really screw up your life and the lives of others if you pursue this. Intense feelings like this is not love. You have no relationship with him. And while you may think you know him from the classroom, you actually know nothing about him.It's not love, it's a crush. If you really want to be an adult, then control these feelings and overcome them. Sorry if this sounds harsh but that's how it is and you are on the cusp of very dangerous territory.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for you advice! really helped. NO I would never have sex with him, and YES my feelings about him are really intense. Ive never loved so much a person (obviously I cant say he will be the only one I loved that way because Im just 15) but anyway, he made me feel special, valuable, and ok about myself. He even told me he loves me and admires me (in a teacher-student way off course). Any way, I just wanted to thank you for your advice.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (7 July 2011):
 It is incredibly rare for a student to marry their teacher, mostly because if the teacher starts a relationship with the child he will end up in prison, because he has comitted a serious crime and is a sex offender.
It is fine that you are friends with your teacher and you keep in touch occasionally, but please, leave it at that. I'm sue you dont want to get him into trouble with the law, so just back off a bit and try to let your feelings fade. They will go away eventually, and one day you will meet a guy more suitable for you.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, hopeFUL_romantic_13  +, writes (7 July 2011):
It's a rare occurrence, but whether people want to believe it or not, there have been a lot of times where two people who share a past student/teacher relationship have wedded and are very much happy. Not all but many sexual relations between students and teachers are based on power and sex. It is possible for these two particular parties to develop feelings that exceed their boundaries, but that doesn't imply that they should act on these feelings. This sort of married couple are two compatible people who just happened to meet in a classroom setting. Wrong time, wrong place, etc. Please let him be. Even if you waited until after you're graduate, he will most likely refuse you. I have feelings for a former teacher of mine but would never act on them.
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reader, shawncaff  +, writes (7 July 2011):
 THe most famous case is that of Mary Kay LaTourneau, a 34-year-old teacher who began a romance with her 16-year-old student, went to prison for it, and then later married him.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mary_Kay_Letourneau
But PLEASE: Use this as an example of what NOT to do.
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