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writes:Hi..I've done somethin really really stupid. Ive had sex..unprotected. I'm scared I might be pregnant and I don't know how to tell my mum. Please give me some advice :( Kaya x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2007): you really are WAY too young to be having sex!!....It's so scary that your doing it at your age!...I have a niece your age and i'd be so upset if i found out she was having sex. You have your whole life ahead of you for that kind of thing!...Dont just drop your pants for any boy that shows you some attention.
Ok so we have all had unprotected sex at some stage....I did today lol...But i'm 21 and the guy is my boyfriend so if i do get pregnant then so be it...he will stand by me but not when your age 10 - 12!!! Your living in a dream world girl, get out of ur habits now!!
I wish you all the luck in the world, please dont get upset by this post but if you do - well i guess "truth hurts" and life is hard as it is and the world can be a very cruel place. Learn from your mistakes now!
Take care hunni x
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reader, Bling_babe +, writes (26 April 2007):
 Hey. I think that you should sit down with you mum and have a talk about it. Tell her what happend and that you think you might be pregnant. She might be upset though she can help you and should understand. Try and not let thing getint an argument but talk as adults, she should respect you for talking to her.
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reader, penta  +, writes (24 April 2007):
 Hi Kaya. You need to talk to an adult who you trust. If you really can't talk to your mom alone, maybe you can tell a teacher maybe? You need to make sure you aren't pregnant, yes, but you also need to make sure you haven't gotten a sexually transmitted disease.
You also need to not have sex again for a few years, at least. Wait until you've been with the same guy for a long time so that you know you can trust him. Someone your own age, or close to it.
Take care of yourself sweetie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): Take a pregnancy test. If you aren't pregnant then take it that you are lucky and never sleep with anyone again until you are at the legal age of 16. If you are pregnant though you need to discuss your options with your parents. Do it sooner rather than later, the sooner they know that you are pregnant the better. Plus, go to a clinic and have tests to check whether you have picked up any STIs or not.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (24 April 2007):
 You are awfully young for having sex, never mind unprotected sex and you need to speak to a trusted adult about what has been going on. Tell them who you've been sleeping with and let them know it's not been protected. It doesn't matter whether it's your mum, a trusted relative or adult friend or a counsellor or teacher. Someone needs to know about this.
I would usually tell girls to find out whether they are pregnant by taking a test before they upset people by telling them but, in your case, I think your family need to know anyway. You're too young to be going through this alone. Tell her as soon as you can, I think you'll be surprised about how supportive she might be in the end, once she gets over the shock.
Good luck and be more careful in future. Stop having any contact with men until you're old enough to understand the responsibilties.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): hi kaya its really important that you tell your mom i no you feel very nervous about doin it but hun you have to say something. if you cant tell in words try writting her a letter. you need all the support in the world now and your mom is the best person to give you that, she will know exactly what to do, she maybe hurt for a little while but she will only have your interest at heart. please tell her today cuz you can get things started today like a pregnancy test and that will tell you yes or no and then you can take it from there. please dont wait it will be hard but from then on in you wont be on your own in this and you wont have to worry cause your mom will be with you every step of the way please take care and good luck sweetie
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): Hiya sweetheart, if you are to scared to talk to your mum do you have an older sister or auntie that you could talk to instead? This way you would have a bit of moral support when it comes to sitting down with your mum. You shouldn't be scared to go and talk to someone as the longer you leave things the worse you will feel, having a heart to heart with your mum would make the bond that you have with her alot stronger and you'll be supprised at how proud your mum will be of you for being strong enough to sit and talk to her. You are only young and your mum will probibly realise that this is a learing curve for you both as mother and daughter.I hope everything works out ok for you.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (24 April 2007):
 first of all take a pregnancy test and then u will be sure wat to tell ur mum.you could be stressing about nothing.but you are extremely young to be in any way sexually active and i think you should think about wat ur doing.sex should be between two people that care for eachother and at your age thats difficult,your still growing and you need to start thinking more maturely.get tested also for std's as this is a high risk.there is no need to worry ur mum if ur not pregnant so do get a test,but in future be more responsible and smarter about your decisions. if you would like to talk more,then get back to me hun,ill be worried about you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): Hi Kaya
It is really important that you tell a responsible adult as soon as you can. You should do this because at the moment you have options whereas if you leave it without telling someone you won't. If you don't feel that your mum will understand then maybe there is another responsible adult you feel you trust and can talk to?
A responsible adult will know what is best for you to do next, and although you are scared to tell them, I promise you that you will probably feel a lot better for telling someone else what's happened. Please do that, and tell an adult what's happened. Take care.
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reader, finchy +, writes (24 April 2007):
 first off do a test.....
is there anyone you can talk to that will help you figure out how to tell your mum? a close relative or friend that can sit down with you and help you sort things out?
take care x
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reader, beautifulllove +, writes (24 April 2007):
 well if your not pregnate than if it happends again go get the morning after pill at the free clinic and i think you need to go see an obgyn doctor and get checked out for stds and just to make sure and you might have to just tell your mom or you may just tell her you need a check up with an female doctor and see what she says but say ur uncomfortable and want to go into the back by your self
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