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writes:None of the boys on my year seem to like me because I have ginger hair. I also really like this one boy. How do I get the boy I'm after??Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): I had the same problem when i was younger and it affected my confidence. I learnt to love my red hair and im 25 now and it hasnt stopped me from getting any boyfriends. Its all down to confidence and how you feel about it in the end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2007): Are you crazy???
I specifically look to go out with red heads, because they are unique, beautiful and mysterious.
Who wants a boring blonde or brunette....
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reader, callmecupid +, writes (24 July 2007):
 Hey...Firstly, if people can't see past the colour of your hair, that doesn't show them up to be very nice, does it? I wouldn't suggest dying you hair a different colour unless it feels right to you.
There are loads of guys out there, and even though it may seem hard to find a decent one, they do exist! Teenage boys tend to follow the crowd more and are quite stereotypical. FACT.
I personally think that red hair is beautiful. It's the rarest of hair colours and the most striking.
A real man appreciates a girl for who she is and not what she looks like.
As for this boy you like...talk to him as much as you can. Get to know him, and make sure he isn't as shallow as the others.
Good luck!
Cara xx
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reader, DIE-romantic. +, writes (23 July 2007):
 Well then these people are just pathetic, and not worth bothering with. If the guy you like, isnt one of these people that would judge you because of something silly like your hair colour, then go for it. If he does, then hes not worth bothering with either. :)Good luck xxxx
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (19 July 2007):
 I would pay no attention to what people say. If you like your hair how it is, then why should you care what other people think?
I, myself, am an extreme example of this. When I was in school, (about year 9) I grew an Afro. The reaction in school was very mixed. I couldn't even walk to my next class without either: Getting abuse hurled at me (or objects, whichever!) or people complimenting me. I wasn't gonna change just because there were lots of people that didn't like my hair, because fact is, I liked my hair, and I still do, YES I haven't changed it.
What it comes down to is; not everyone is going to like, or accept who you are, but it's true that there are people who will accept and like you. In the mean time, when you're made fun of, either ignore, or laugh it off. It's the best way.
My advice would be; don't let them win. Don't change because others want you to, change because you want to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007): Ginger hair is gorgeous! As an Asian, I have black hair, and I've always said to my girlfriends if I were Caucasian I'd want to be a redhead. And I'd grow it nice and long!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007): Lindsay Lohan dyed her hair blonde & black. So which ever one would look better on you (probably blonde) then consider doing it. All these ppl. are telling you not to change b/c you should "be who you are" But I am sure they've dyed their hair or even gotten plastic surgery some of them. It's easy to be on the outside looking in & say "you're fine the way you are" but, obviously if no guys like you b/c of your hair & there is something simple you can do about it (like dye it) then why not do it? Why feel bad about yourself for one more minute?? Guys really like blondes, ask your mom if she'll take you to a salon to get your hair bleached. And consider going tanning too. Good luck!!
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (17 July 2007):
 My niece is a gingernut and we love her for it! Lord help if anyone tries to bully her for it lol.
If a guy is going to not like you because of your hair hunni then he isn't worth the time of day. Would you turn a guy down because he has green eyes or black hair? No, well I don't think you would.
There will be some guy out there who will one day go potty over you and not care that your hair is ginger or you have freckles or wear glasses or whatever :D
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 Be proud of it. If you feel that you are inferior to other girls, guys can see it from a distance. Guys love confident girls and as one of the other aunts said on here, some guys really really like red haired girls.
If you are proud of what you have, guys will see that and realise that you don't have a care in the world - and that's what they like.
Feel more confident in yourself that it is you own unique style. If you want a guy to want you, you have to realise that you can be wanted if you remain confident in yourself and not care what others think.
Take care and don't worry!!
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): When I was younger I had ginger hair and was very self conscious about it too. I dyed my hair all colours of the rainbow to feel as though I fitted in with the other girls. I was never short of male attention and I think that had nothing to do with my hair colour, I was and still am a good laugh. Now my hair is sadly going grey and I look at old photo's and see what beautiful colour hair I had and what on earth ever possessed me to dye it! So just be yourself, personality is far more important than hair colour!
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reader, bemused  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 Hi hun
DO NOT CHANGE YOUR HAIR!! I am a redhead. There are plenty of blondes and brunettes but only so many of us redheads. Trust me sweetie...if a guy really likes you or does not like you it will not be because of your hair. Have you talked to this guy or let him know how you feel?? A lot of redheads have the pale skin and freckles and sometimes a little lipstick or eye shadow can really show off our assets. Be proud of you are hun. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): I have red hair too (or 'ginger' but prefer to call it red!)
I've always hated my hair, and I've dyed it a few times but it does damage your hair and grows out quickly anyway so not really worth it! No one has ever picked on me because of it though, and although I'm sometimes self conscious (cos you feel like you look sooo different to every other girl)I can't change it and I was made one for a reason! It's only cos there are so few redheads these days, but some men like it and love the fact you can be so sweet and quiet one minute then fiesty and hot the next! It has its advantages! Any guy that doesn't like it is certainly not worth the pursuit, he'll soon see what he's missing...x
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 Listen to the other aunts but I also want you to know that over here in the USA, men go nuts over redheads!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 The one advice I can give you is not to change the color of your hair. You are who you are and people will love you that way. What one person finds unattractive others will find just right. I happen to love ginger color, for example; I wouldn't want you to change it. So, if he won't love you for the color of your hair, he's not worth going after.
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reader, marj +, writes (17 July 2007):
 The boy you are after won't know unless you let him know. smile at him, make converstion, the colour of your hair wont make any difference, if he likes you.
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