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writes:Hello all I have a question for the guys out there. Would you rather have a super hot woman with a pretty face and nice bod but dumb and needy. ORWould you rather have a sweetheart with a kind and generous heart but average looks and weight. Just curious. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2011): It takes awhile for a man to know if a woman is kind and generous so looks is what initially attracts him. Then he finds out if the woman's personality is what he wants. The more beautiful the woman, the more he'll initially attribute more positives to her personality. A hot woman definitely has an advantage when it comes to dating but not in keeping a man if her personality isn't a good fit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2011): To be honest... I think a lot of people on here will just tell you what is "right" by society's guidelines or what sounds best sugar coated. The truth... guys usually go for the looks or good sex before personality. I know first hand. I am needy and bitchy and ditsy...but my husband loves me. He tells me that he wouldn't put up with it if I wasn't attractive. But... we have a great sex life that is very fulfilling and make each other very happy.
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 Personality every time. Looks do fade and attractive with bad personality is ugly. However, average looks with bad personality is also ugly in that sense. So, I'd look for the chemistry, the easy going type. But people are all types so attractive and good personality is great too. However, I believe a personality and chemistry make that person attractive.
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reader, Wheeler +, writes (4 October 2011):
 Well, I think you should ask yourself the same question. Would you prefer a decent looking guy with a great personality? I am sure there are guys thinking the exact some thing as you. Guys that aren't Brad Pitt, but are loyal and honest. Guys that would watch Sex and the City with you.
Be honest, have you ever passed up on the sweet guy with a good personality because you thought you had a chance with a hot guy you suspected only had one thing in mind? If you haven't, bravo for you! If you have, then know that we all make these kinds of bad decisions on our way to the one that is right for us.
We live in a society (for those in the US) that is dominated by air-brushed ads for super-hot babes that in most cases don't even exist. Our society places extremely high regard for the very surface aspects of beauty. This is something that I am sure weighs heavily on the self-esteem of most less-than-perfect women beginning at a very young age. Yet so often even the "super hot" women have awful self-esteems.
Just know the value of inner beauty, of a beautiful heart. And that there are many great men out there looking for just that.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 I'm not a guy but I can tell you this: In the end it all boils down to chemistry, and the eternal truth...Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder! If you fall in love with someone, you either don't even notice their imperfections, or you love them for every bit of it.
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reader, Odds +, writes (4 October 2011):
 It's not really a fair test - you're pitting hot & dumb against average & sweet. Plus, even anonymously, most guys would feel compelled to answer "personality," whether that's true or not, or not to answer at all.
Given the choice you've stated, I would (and have, historically) go with average and sweet, because average is still pretty good - and can get better with a good diet and exercise (we can have a date night where I'll show her how to cook a few healthy meals). Plus, while most girls are pleasant enough, real sweethearts are tough to come by.
But in a fair test, between the hot & dumb girl and the repulsive & sweet girl, I'd go with the hot one. There has to be at least some attraction for the relationship to start, and a drama queen is manageable enough once you learn to ignore their nonsense and only pay attention to them when they're being reasonable.
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reader, landomando +, writes (4 October 2011):
She has to be attractive but personality and chemistry means alot more then just a super hot girl.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (4 October 2011):
 I'm not a guy but wanted to point out that looks fade, but a personality is forever.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 I would always go for the average cute girl with a great personality. To be honest most of the girls my friends say are drop dead gorgeous I only find them to be ok but nothing special. Everyone has their own specific tastes. Sometimes it is more about having the confidence to show a guy that you are interested and that you want to talk to them so that they take the time to see your personality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2011): Why do these traits have to be mutually exclusive? I date women who exhibit all of these qualities. My girlfriend has a beautiful face, nice teeth, eyes, hair, sexy body, an she's intelligent, very sweet, and has a great heart. I prefer the pretty girl next door type who can carry on a great conversation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2011): With every guy, it's different. No two guys have the same taste in girls. I would personally prefer the sweetheart. Because, I'm a sensitive guy.
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