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writes:Have you ever cheated and not gotten caught or found out? Are you still with the person you cheated on? How many times did you cheat and what was the extent of it? (ex) kissing, touching, sex, ect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): To the OP n yes you have questioned here before. Are you taking notes, doing your homework or merely writing some erotic story ? Tot he people who responded: cheating wife on her hb, now with the same lover she cheated with: you know deep in your heart you will never be happy with your lover. Why are you so angry and bitter? No one forced you to cheat. I am glad you realised the grass isn't greener. Aint life funny. You are now with the man you cheated with and what you have revealed is that the fairytale is over, its now a nliving nightmare, and you don't even like or trust your lover. You are destroying whatever semblence of a decent person you are. You know this man is toxic, you cannot trust him and he definately cannot and will not trust you. Stop wasting your life on a loser and learn to be alone. Heal if you can and then try another rerlationship. The lover you cheated with is not worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): Yes.I adore my wife. Love her to bits and hope to be with her till I die. I could not hope for a more wonderful woman.But in the 13 years since we married I've had sex with well over 150 other women. I've cut out the crazy casual sex now as I get older but I still have 3 other regular partners.I'm not proud of it and I certainly would not admire any other man that does the same as I do.The key to not being caught is not feeling guilty. If you feel guilt then you will be caught because it will show and because part of you will want to be caught. I'm perfectly capable of spending a long afternoon banging a brace of university students and then coming home and being a caring decent husband and dad. I can only do that because I genuinely love (and still lust after) my wife and because I don't feel guilt. Its a bit of faulty wiring in the brain or just a lack of moral fibre but all I can say is that I love naked female bodies and nothing takes my mind off business stresses and strains in the same way that making a beautiful girl cum does but it seems no more wrong to me than going and playing a game of squash with a friend.I'd add that I am extremely careful as regards health. I have regular check ups and have only once caught anything and that has been quickly dealt with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): I had an affair on my husband. It was short (4 months)and I ended up leaving my husband. He never knew (therapsit recommended not telling him since I was leaving and there was no point in causing him more pain) and I hate myself for doing it.
Two years later I am with the same guy I cheated with...our relationship is toxic...it's verbally and emotionally abusive and he is not that guy I thought he was. We have major trust issues - I have so much resentment and bitterness against him because he pushed for a physical relationship when I was married even though I told him no (although in the end it was my decision, I gave in and I take responsibility for that), and I question his intergrity about getting involved with a married woman. He doesn't trust me because he says that if I could cheat on my husband then I could cheat on him...and he experienced first hand how sneaky I can be and how easily I could lie to the one I was married to. He doesn't like me talking to other guys because that's how our relationship started.
If you are considering on cheating I would say DONT. I was the last person on earth you would expect to cheat and I made a very bad judgement call. I still carry a lot of anger and guilt and hate towards myself...and let me tell you that the grass isn't any greener on the other side.
With that said I see now that my ex-husband and I were not mean't for eachother. I think if anyone is questioning their relationship then to take time out for themselves to figure it out, without being distracted by someone else.
I love my current partner and we are trying to work things out but it would have been a lot better if we had waited until I left my husband before starting a relationship. I will NEVER EVER cheat again. I learned a very hard lesson and am working on my issues that caused me to act the way I did. It's not worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): Hello,
I have cheated many times:
1. I had a boyfriend and whilst with him I started seeing another guy whom I moved in with.
2. I kissed a neighbour whilst I was with my bf (same as the bf above).
3. I met up with random men and women for casual sexual encounters. With me it was just oral sex with women it was full blown all out sex.
I am not longer with the man I cheated on, I lost all respect for him as he (ironically) cheated on me via facebook.
I am now with a man and I wouldn't even dream of cheating on him and I never have in the three years we have been together. Leopards can sometimes change their spots. Or at least stand in a light that makes them look spotless.
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