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anonymous
writes:You've probably heard this a trillion times but I just can't get over it for some reason.I've gone through this phase of insecurity before. I had been consoled by a friend and I thought I was feeling confident and over it, but after hearing some of my female friends talking about the size thing again recently, I realized that I had never felt so embarrassed than at that time.One of my friends said she liked "big hot penises" but the thing is, I was sorta attracted to her a bit because she was cute, funny, smart, etc, but now I dunno what to do anymore. I'm even more scared to admit anything because of this.She even said she thinks 6 inches is a little small, which made my face turn so red. I'm only barely 4 (four!!) inches and before you say anything, I have no girth at all, it's thin. How could I expect to satisfy someone who thinks that a penis that's huge compared to mine is...'small' ._.I tried to crack a joke saying 'if she ever meets anyone with a small cold penis' but she just laughed and I laughed with her as to not sound like I'm referring to myself.And to top it off, I feel like the girls who have told me that size doesn't matter were just lying to me because they only say that to me when I asked them if size mattered. They're more honest if it's just a regular conversation, I think. Every other time, a girl wasn't afraid to admit to me that she liked bigger ones better. A girl who will like me for me, and will like my penis no matter what size it is, is that just a myth?Why do I keep feeling like this? I've probably made like 2-3 posts on this website alone asking for help, and I THOUGHT I'd be okay after everyone's responses but I'm still so insecure.How can I compete with that? How can I get over this once and for all? I hate my body, ughhhhhh.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (12 November 2010):
 "One is that about one third of all women never climax from intercourse alone"
Get good at oral dude... Come on, if you can get a woman to orgasm with your tongue, do you think she's really going to care all that much about your size...?
Oh, and stop basing this insecurity on what one girl that you like said. So you wouldn't be her perfect match... big whoop, there's tonnes of girls out there who'll accept you as you are.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 November 2010):
 My first sugggestions perhaps would be to expand your circle of friends from girls who love to talk about "big hot penises " to girls who love to talk about big hot...
I don't know - literary masterpieces ? Economy topics ? Travels ?
Not that brainy girls aren't as horny as anybody else, but they are a bit more into quality than quantity.
The second is to inform yourself about female sexuality, you'll learn some interesting things. One is that about one third of all women never climax from intercourse alone, -so size is really not an issue one third of the times. Another is the only the first outer third of the
female genitalia is equipped with nerve endings, i.e. you actually "feel " the penis just for a short trait that even the less endowed men can cover .
Last but not least, just work with what nature has given you, be happy with it and be confident. Love is not only for perfect bodies and porn stars, thanks God. A penis, believe it ot not, is just one of the ingredients for successful lovemaking. Others, and more important, are passion, tenderness, sensitivy, fantasy .. and good oral skills.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (12 November 2010):
I think you're dealing with a very small minded girl. That's all I can say to reassure you really. Have belief in your performance and your body, and you won't have a problem. Also, don't pick closed minded women.
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reader, Natalie:) +, writes (12 November 2010):
 Your friend was being cruel. With a guy around she should of been considerate. She can't be that hot if she's mean!
If your smaller than average you'll just have to learn to be really good at foreplay and know what to do with yourself!!
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