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*cfirefly
writes:I need some help please! I went to a sensual massage therapist and feel in love with her at first sight. Well after a few months, we starting dating and we fell head over heels in love. Well, after 3 months of dating, I told her I was having a hard time dealing with her job and she agreed and quit, which was a big relief and we started planning our marriage and our future. I had a great job and was able to take care of her financially. Well, I recently lost my job but I am sure I will be back to work soon however, she decided to go back to giving massages. She promises she is not doing anything but the "Happy Ending" (which breaks my heart) but I have to either deal with it or lose her. I find myself looking at her ad on Backpage and just put it in the back of my mind and I am dealing with it so far, but I am scared. Am I a fool, after all, I knew what she was doing before I started dating her, and I know she loves me. REALLY, what should I do?Please, any advice will be helpful because I am lost!
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reader, natasia  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Get a job asap and stop her doing that job. Then get married and start a family and once she is pregnant/has a child she will never go back to it. But your financial support is crucial. Let this motivate you to get a job asap.
Good luck and remember she is only doing it for the cash, but still, get a job QUICK.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Use it to motivate you to find work fast! I don't know if I could deal with this either. However, you did know what she did for a living before you got together. If she didn't do that, you would have never met and fallen in love.
The question of acceptance is what you're facing. Can you accept this and that it's temporary?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Am afraid you are going to just have to accept it at the end of the day its her job and its not like she is out selling her body or cheatin on you, you just have to trust her and be happy for her
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