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writes:Is it better to lose your virginity to a prostitute if your past your teens than waiting for sumthing long term, which could take forever?
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (13 February 2009):
trust me. people always remember their first time! you can't say you won't, because you will. people either look back with a smile or with an ick factor. mine was ick.
do you really want to tell your future gf's that your first time was with a hooker?
trust me girls won't be interested if they find out you had to get a call girl for first time sex.
stop pretending to be a player and just be yourself. why are you in such a rush anyway? you should just let it happen, it will happen. there is no race for you to loose your virginity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): Don't tell them 'til afterwards then, they really don't need to know that you're a virgin beforehand, if you're worried about sexual performance then do a bit of research.
A good fall back is to learn how to give great head, that way if you come too early you can jokingly blame her for being too sexy (or say nothing) and go straight down on her and finish her off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): While I agree there is always a chance of getting hooked it's not a given, I've been with pro's and not got hooked and I don't for a second regret any of it.
Again I ask you Gina why you're so hung up on the possibilty of catching a disease? It's possible and indeed far more common to contract one from a woman that's not a prostitute. There are plenty of women out there that don't always practice safe sex. Take one look at the amount of "am I pregnant?" questions on this site if you need proof.
The pro's I've been with get tested monthly and will show you proof if you ask them to bring it. How many regular girls can say the same?
I'm sorry that your husband used them, if that applies, but that's not the pro's fault and it doesn't mean they're all "dirty, disease ridden, desperate whores" some of them love having sex and they get paid really well for something they love to do. The risks of either getting emotionaly scarred, contracting a disease or becoming hooked are minimal.
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reader, anoms +, writes (13 February 2009):
anoms is verified as being by the original poster of the question i dont think to many people hear remember ther first time well enough, when you dont know how your going to be able to perform its nerve racking, girls take one look at me and asume im a player, i have turned down many offers beacuse i played the game to get ther attention but when i had it i didnt want to say "hey btw this is my first time", get it? its stalemate for me.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (13 February 2009):
but you won't think that you can just go and do it...you still won't be confident to go up to a girl and ask her out. cause you would not have done it before, paying a girl is not the same as asking her out on a date and being yourself.
shagging a hooker won't build your confidence! if you are a 23 yr old body builder then you must be fine! i have not even seen a photo of you, but it all sounds good. confidence is the one thing you need to get a girl. just walk into a club/bar with your head raised and think to yourself "damn i'm sexy and every woman in here wants me!" you will find someone! don't waste your money on a call girl. you will only regret it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): Whore is such a judgemental word, they prefer to be called escorts, working girls or accorded the respect for the sex professionals that they are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): No offense Gina but I think you're missing the point, like most of the other females that have posted on this topic.
It's very likely that ye are posting from the perspective of people that have never been with a prostitute, I have been with prostitutes a few times. So in all fairness you are entitled to your opinions but they are based on conjecture, not experience and they're from a female perspective.
To put it bluntly he's looking for a woman to shag, not care about him, if he wants a hug he can go to his mom.
Sleeping with a prostitute is actually shown to be sfaer than sleeping with a promiscuos woman so the fact that he's paying for it does not increase his chances of contracting something, this idea that all prostitues are disease laden crackwhores is an idiotic one, there are such whores out there but only an equally disease laden man would pay for such services from one of those.
With the right one, for the right price it can be a lovely intimate experience and it is always hassle free.
That's why he needs to shop around and find a good one.
Of course it is always possible to get hooked on sleeping with them, but you can get hooked on anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): It's been ten years since I lost my virginity and I've never been asked how it happened by anyone, nor has it ever come up in conversation so don't worry about that, you can always make up something if you want.
Look everyone's different but to me virginity is not a big deal and losing it to a prostitute wouldn't have made a difference if I'd had. If you feel like getting the fumbling mess that is a guys first time out of the way with a pro then go ahead.
But do your homework and be prepared to spend a good bit of cash on a nice place and a good quality prostitute. That's kind of important, because being with a cheap one is very cold and not intimate. One major advantage of losing your virginty to a pro is that she's not going to be judging your sexual performance, she'll be patient (she's getting paid), she'll guide you in what you're doing and as long as your protected there's no aftermath.
One major drawback though is it's not making love, and there's nothing that tops that.
With all due respect to anon male reader, would rather lose it with a "fat slut" or a beautiful looking woman of your chosing thats being paid to do whatever you want?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2009): Well i know i personally couldnt relax until i lost my virginity because all my m8s had lost and i was labeled with the big V, i didnt lose it to a late age, 18.
But i didnt loose it to a prostitute and im glad i didnt, because you might get asked the question how or who did you loose your virginity too a lot in your life and you dont want your answer to be a prostitute.
Just loose it to some fat slut who cant get any, thats what i did lol, then i could relax and being a VIRGIN wasnt on my mind 24/7 anymore and i could actually concentrate on talking to girls instead of just being obsessed with losing my virginity to them which comes across as desperate and girls dont like that.
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reader, anoms +, writes (12 February 2009):
anoms is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim not sure you guys get it, im not confident enough to engage somone im not paying at this stage in the game, when the dirty deed is done (the first time) i can go have sex with anyone and il feel like thers nothing to it, im a 23yo bodybuilder and im gudlukn an i get alot of attention, im to scared to except the offers iv had/got because im embarresed right now.
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reader, alohanikkiii  +, writes (12 February 2009):
I think it might be best to wait, everyone goes through a rough patch when it comes to relationships. If the first time you have sex isn't meaningful, then it won't be as special as you want it to be since you held off throughout your teens. Sex doesn't just have to be physical: you should be mentally ready, too. Whether that's being in love with the girl or when it just feels right.. so I think that waiting is best. Because if it's just about getting experience then it's probably not meaningful. Good luck with the decision you make though and don't regret it because it's an important step in your life.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (12 February 2009):
why do it with some hooker. you mean nothing to her, she just wants the money at the end of the day!
just wait for someone special to come along, it will happen! be patient.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2009): i think maybe you should wait. you don`t want to remember your first time being with someone who you may never see again. plus your first time should be special you wouldn't want it to be with someone who may have some kind of disease. good luck!
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reader, urbanking99 +, writes (12 February 2009):
Same as pvtguy, wait. I did and I still remember it. The excitement and anticipation. The first time seeing a naked woman in the flesh - oh joy. And remember enjoy the experience take your time and ask the woman you're with what she likes. Take a movie and still photos with your mind only and that way you have it forever.
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reader, elliebellie +, writes (12 February 2009):
Waiting for something long term, which could take longer seems a much better idea than losing it to someone whose job is basically to have sex. It'll mean nothing to them and if i were you i would feel used. I know its cliche but your first time is meant to be special; something you'll remember and someone you'll remember. Of course it's a personal choice but you'll probably feel better looking back that you've made the decision to wait and do it with someone special.
Let me know how it goes!
Good Luck
Lots of Love
Ellie
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