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writes:I married a wonderful man 3 years ago. He has a heart of gold and is very, very good to me. My concern is his ex-wife. All of a sudden she has started to show up at my husband's family events. This past christmas she showed up at the family party. And what a show she was putting on. I truly couldn't believe it. My husband was so embarrassed, he said he felt betrayed and hurt by whomever invited her. He stated to me that she does this kind of stuff. She is evil. He also said that when they were married she never wanted to work and had plenty of time to get close to his family. He said she had plenty of time to run him down and run the bills up. He also stated that she likes to be in charge. Now he wants to stay away from his own family events. He loves these parties. His aunt wants him to just get along. What should we do?
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (13 February 2009):
 She comes to make a scene and to get a reaction from you guys. If you stop coming then she knows she won.
why give up your family to her. I first ask your family not to invite her. but then she might come uninvited.
I say who cares. He's with you now. You act like calm, cool, and act like you couldn't care less or give a damn.
when she sees her presence and tactics aren't working she will feel stupid. Eventually she'll realize what a fool she's making of herself.
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reader, Mrs. Mom +, writes (12 February 2009):
 Suggest he talk to his aunt and remind her how much he loves his family and enjoys the get-togethers. He should explain how upsetting his ex-wife's presence is at the parties and appeal to her kindness.If she doesn't respond positively, there's not much he can do other than either avoid the parties or put up with her presence.On the bright side, it sounds like you two have a good thing going. Don't let this silly, immature woman take away from your happiness. Just remember that living well is the best revenge!
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