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writes:So I've been attempting to masturbate for a while now to see if I can have an orgasm since I haven't experienced one with a partner. I watched a video explaining tips on how to ejaculate, so I start masturbating and I reach that point where I'm about to hit my climax, I push and instead of ejaculating I peed. I know it was pee too cause the liquid was yellow instead of a clear/whitish color it is said to be. And yes before I started to masturbate I emptied my bladder but I still managed to pee instead of cum... I feel as if my body is broken and doesn't function like other women. Can someone explain whats wrong with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): What should I do if I have never had an orgasm? Ill get to that point where Im about to have an orgasm but then I have to stop and I start to cramp when I stop... I feel as if Im the only woman with this problem. =(
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): I totally agree, Dignity; NO WAY is it disgusting.Some regard it as the pinnacle of erotic achievement. Don't let that faze you if you can't do it, but many now believe that most, if not all, women can do so. It simply requires patience.If you cum readily then even moderate stimulation of your g-spot will yield the desired result, but if you take a bit more work, then that's where the patience comes in....It can often take upwards of half an hour of stimulation of your g-spot to fill your urethral sponge (just behind your g-spot) with ejaculate, so you will just have to put up with being aroused and stimulated for that length of time - sorry!Use plenty of lubricant for such a long session: you don't want to be sore.You puzzled me when you said it was yellow. If you had just peed, it should not have been. Also, your body closes off the pee duct during arousal so no pee should have been allowed to pass, especially as you were empty anyway.That's the only inexplicable part of your situation. Maybe it's worth being checked for any urinary malfunction?
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reader, old-spinstah  +, writes (17 November 2009):
I feel the OP is a little confused - or maybe I am. Are you saying that you are trying to have an orgasm or trying to experience female ejaculation? Because they are not one and the same thing. Women can enjoy orgasms with or without "ejaculating". Although some women do ejaculate (and it's perfectly normal for them) I would say that the majority do not. I have never experienced female ejaculation but I've had plenty of orgasms - and I can't say that I'm bothered.
As long as you are experiencing orgasms you are totally normal
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (17 November 2009):
 I would have to disagree with k__c100 completely.
Female ejaculation is just as natural as male ejaculation. It has nothing to do with being a porn star or anything like that. It's a natural body reaction that women can't really help or 'turn off'. To me, there is nothing disgusting about it, and it can feel really good when done correctly. It's just handy to be prepared and have a towel laid down or something when you are working toward this process, because things can get a little messy.
I think you might be attempting the wrong way when it comes to this type of orgasm. For me, there are two types. When you orgasm through clitoral stimulation (where you rub your clit and then climax). Then there is another way to orgasm, and that's through your g-spot. The g-spot is located inside the vagina, right along the outer wall. It's a rough part of the tissue, said to be as small as a pea. This is the only way that I have experienced female ejaculation. Never through clitoral stimulation. Also it's easier to ejaculate when a partner is doing the deed, because their reach is a little bit better. Fingers I find are the best, seeing as there is more control over them. And just quick 'come hither' motions with them right against this spot will trigger this reaction. The sensation of urination is common but you don't force it as you were. It just happens. And the other thing that's different about urination is that you can actually feel the urine passing through. With female ejaculation, there isn't that feeling. It's like you don't even know you're ejaculating. Strange, but I guess that's what makes urination and ejaculation different. That and what it consists of.
Anyway, don't pressure yourself to do this. I really do think it's easier with a partner, and they have to know what they're doing. Most women haven't found themselves able to do so, even with a partner. Just keep trying for fun and don't get stressed! Female ejaculation is about...well...feeling good. So enjoy exploring the body, and don't ever think that it's disgusting. :) Good luck.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (17 November 2009):
 Well let me just say this as a woman - I have never experienced a female ejaculation nor would I want to! Yes I can orgasm, whether that is through clitoral stimulation or through penetration, but I have never "ejaculated" so to speak. You can orgasm without the ejaculation, that is very normal. It is quite rare for a woman to be able to ejaculate so dont worry - you are not "broken" in any way and there is nothing wrong with you!
Why do you even want to ejaculate? I think its a bit disgusting for a female to ejaculate - after all it is a very manly thing to have happen so why would you want to try and emulate a man? Its messy and a bit weird (after all, your not a porn star so why the hell bother?!).
If you cannot orgasm at all then that is a problem, but female ejaculation is pretty rare and not something to worry about if you cant achieve it.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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