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writes:my girlfriend of 3 yrs will only give about 30%, wont come to my house i have to go there. always tells me how wrong iam and that her and her kids are right, ALWAYS, every single thing is done when she says, its not what WE can do to make this work, its always what am i going to change. if i have a problem and go to her she decides if its worth talking about. no sex in the day, no showers together, still cant see her naked,every day theres a insult from her or kids and tells me to just man up, should i tell her to hit the road? Reply to this Question
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reader, Asexy +, writes (7 November 2007):
 "What you tolerate becomes your standard." If you ever want better treatment, you'll have to stand up for it. Good luck man.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (3 November 2007):
 Dude, why would you tolerate this behavior from ANYBODY?
I think you know the answer, and you are just asking for someone to give you permission.
If you continue to let people treat you badly, you will keep getting into crap relationships like the one you are in now.
She is right about one thing. Man up. The best way to man up is to dump her.
-Frank B Kermit author of "I'm a Man, That's My Job" the book to teach adult boys to grow the balls they need to act like men.
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reader, selflove-always-first  +, writes (2 November 2007):
Yes, my girlfriend of 12 years (I'm 30) has never done things like that to me, on the oposite she has told me when I'm wrong on a loving way, I feel she is like my sister. The rest of the time, she send me cards for special ocasions, gifts for me or my baby(when she was born), calls me to see how I'm doing and then I have done the same things for her, whe both have only one baby and did I mention she is leaving in NY and me in London for the last 5 years. So you see, is a genuine give and take and you feel it in your heart when somebody is good for you. Cut all ties it hurts at first but you'll be better of.
Take care.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (2 November 2007):
 Something surely sounds amiss here. It sounds like she is the kind who wants it her way or else! It might be the time for you to cut your losses. A real relationship is about taking and GIVING. If she isn't willing to even see her faults then she thinks she is ok here and you are the blame. Tell her exactally how you feel and that if things don't change you think the relationship should be over. Chances are that things probably won't change as long as you don't stand up and say what's on your mind. If it's been going on for 3 years I believe it is high time you did. If you love her it will be one of the hardest things you'll ever do. If you decide to stay in this relationship with nothing changed you will always be left feeling alone and miserable. In fact you already don't have much say it seems or even that you count for much in the relationship. Sorry to hear that you are having this problem and my best wishes to you.
God bless.
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reader, Strippa +, writes (2 November 2007):
 Hey you
You should move on i think - the fact that this woman is looking out for her kids is natural and to be expected if you are critising them then she is right to tell you you are wrong in front of them, however if she is just teaching them to be disrespectful & treating people like shit - then no that is wrong & show her kids that you will not be a target - as won't many people they meet on their journey - if this is the case she's a bully - do one x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): In a word, YES!
Phil
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