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writes:hi, i am 14, and a male, and i am straight, but sometimes when im watching porn i like to go to gay porn and watch it and when doing so i fantasize about my male best friend and i like it alot and it turns me on more than women do, but when ive finished i think ew thats grose and when im near him i dont think about it at all, but if he asked me to have sex with him id maybe say yes.does this make me gay, even though i still like women?please answer
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reader, hihihihihihihihi  +, writes (9 September 2010):
it makes you bisexual not gay although im gay and i also fantasize about my friends
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): I don't think you're gay.You're at an age when everything is still so new and confusing. What you think may be the case about your sexual situation may not be later on in life. DON'T MAKE ANY HARD DECISIONS. Allow yourself to explore your interests, but don't believe that you're gay, bisexual, or even straight simply because you like something.Personally, I think you're thinking about your best friend because you have strong feelings for him. This may or may not mean that you're interested in guys in general, so just give yourself the room to watch how you develop. And whatever you discover about yourself, don't let anyone make you feel obligated to be straight or convinced into being gay. You have to decide for yourself.
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reader, madlove85 +, writes (17 August 2009):
i was doing the same thing when I was that age. thought I was straight. came out 2 years later. go with your heart. its not a bad thing to be gay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): You have to take in acount that you like girls too so your bisexual, meaning you like both.your feelings later on may change to where you only like one girls or guys, Or you may always like both. You look at him differently though when your around your friend, strange bec., When I look at guys I like, I'm generally thinking there hot and Im really happy. You dont feel that though. When your watching gay porn, your watching guys having sex right, so you think of the first guy that would come to mind is your friend. The reason why you like gay porn more is bec. its stimulating your mind more, there are 8 sexual stimulants in our brains, so as you watch the porn they become less stimulated to where you need another level of porn to satisfy that need, to be met. Thats why you fantisise about your friend is bec. your mind is finding new ways to adapted to compensate for the next sexual feeling to be stimulated.
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reader, tamika1983 +, writes (8 August 2009):
U may just be curious there's no need to ask yourself whether or not your gay. Most people wouldn't admit it but damn near everyone wonder what it will be like to be with someone of the same sex. Majority of those people will act on it while others will just keep it at that(I Wonder). Just take your time and u will know exactly what u want wether it is to be gay straight or bi. No matter what u choose u have to be confident in what u choose and make sure to never be ashamed. I have a lot of gay guy friends and to me they are the best people to have as a friend. Truthfully if I found a female with a penis then I would want them cause to me there is something about a female's body that turns me on but I love the way penis feels.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): Ok..that is a great question. I am a gay male who knew I was attracted to men by the time I was 13/14. However, I didn't "label" myself as gay until college. What I am trying to say here (and I hope you really understand this) is don't let anyone say that you are gay or bi because you are watching some gay porn or fantasize about you best male friend. You are too young to call yourself gay or bi. Enjoy your youth without a label. Explore sexuality (responsibly) and have fun with it. Wait till your are older to figure out your preference. Eventually, you will just know what is best for you. But remember, you are only 14. You shouldn't be labeled
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (7 August 2009):
 It sounds to me like you are curious... don't be so busy trying to label yourself. You are young and just figuring out your body, feelings and sexuality. There's no need to throw yourself in a box. A few years down the road, you may have a clearer idea of what you'd like to call yourself, but really, it's not that important.
Nothing wrong with curiosity, trial and error, experimenting and not labeling yourself!
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reader, deadduderc +, writes (7 August 2009):
Watching gay porn doesn't automatically make you gay, but if you're fantasizing about sleeping with someone of the same gender then it's possible. In your case, I think it's probably more likely that you're either just hornier than the average guy or possibly even bisexual.
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (7 August 2009):
 If you honestly say that if a guy friend asked you to have sex and you would say yes, then chances are you might be gay. Usually if homosexuality is just a fantasy, it stops as a fantasy. It doesn't spread into things you're actually willing to carry out in reality. But hey, you are still pretty young, so it is a little too early to tell. I would hold off on finding out until you really know what you want.
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reader, PrincessSmithee  +, writes (7 August 2009):
 i have lots of gay friends, and they all said around 13/14 .. well basically when they started watching porn they knew automically they liked guys and straight porn didnt really much for them.
I have a bi friend who likes both equally and ive never asked him about it, but i genrally guess he likes both.. oh wait, yeah he likes both we was watching those free porn channels for a laugh when he slept at my house and he was like commenting on if the girls were hot lol.
But maybe its a phase, but be honest with yourself. you will know in your heart if you truly do like men if you still feel the same around 16.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): I have a lot of gay male friends(i study fashion) and im intrigued by their relationships with men and them being gay.
Most of them said they knew straight away that they were gay because they were attracted to men and not women at a young age.
if your watching gay porn and imagining your male friends and if your not attracted to women then most likely you are gay or you may grow out of it.
Dont think its gross there isnt any problem in thinking like that its who you are just learn to accept it really.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): Maybe it does. You'll find out for yourself in time.
When you've finished whacking off thinking about men, you feel it's gross immediately afterwards? That's normal at 14. Internalised homophobia, inflicted by society, and not you. If you are gay, that too will disappear with time.
Best of luck
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