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writes:hi i m from india and i got engaged with a girl couple months ago , i love her she is very sweet straight and clear to the point ,but i m so possesive about her , as an indian traditional guy i always wanted a clean girl with high character, but some how whenever i talk to her on the phone there is a feeling of possesivness comes across again and again that probably she is not telling me abt her past relatinship , eventhough she told me several times that she never had a boy friend , and i confirmed that from various different ways,she knows that i m very posesive, please help me out that what should i do so i can trust her, or any other alternative way so i can satisfy myself
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): You need to try and trust her unless she gives you a reason not to, which from what you say, it sounds like she is very trustworthy. Personally, I find possessiveness drives me away. In my one serious relationship, my partner was very possessive and it made him do all kinds of awful things to me to force me to stay, even though being with him was all I wanted until he'd treated me badly for so long. Possessiveness drives you crazy and puts distance between you and her. I think you can believe what she tells you - it's even backed up from other sources that she hasn't had a boyfriend. Tell yourself to relax and trust her as often as you need to until it starts to work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): hey man...u take it easy...are u engaged?..if yes then i am sure she would not do anything wrong...i would say it with 99% confidence...but if u r just a bf/gf stuff she can do anything....i had very similar experience i am from india ...she ditched me....so i know how it feels ..it hurts when ur possessiveness and passion is not considered.....try and talk to her..u have no choice but to trust her...bless u
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