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writes:I recently started a new job and met a guy there who I've developed a tiny crush on. What's bothering me is that I have a boyfriend who I love very much. We've been together for almost two years and in that whole time I haven't had a 'crush' on anyone else. The other day I caught myself thinking that I'd be interested in this guy if I was single, if he was available and if he was here to stay (he's from another state and is here on a temporary assignment).I don't know the guy at all and the feelings I'm having remind me of how I felt when I had a crush on boys back in high school. It's sort of exciting because I don't know anything about him so I can fill my mind with anything I like.What I want to know is whether this is normal? As I said, my boyfriend is my number one and I would never do anything to hurt him. This just feels weird.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2011): yes. this is perfectly normal. things like this will happen, and probably more than once, during the course of a long term relationship. but what really shows our true character is how we choose to handle these situations.
this guy will only move back to where he's from and you'll never hear from him again. believe me, if something happened between you two, you will most likely wind up really regretting it in the end.
so to answere your ultimate question: yes. this is normal. the secret is learning to handle these things appropriately.
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