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writes: So I have a friend and we live far apart but we text a lot. I don't know her super well yet but I am getting to know her, I enjoy her company on the phone and she is kind of cute. We often send each other photos of our day to day life. We got onto the subject of tattoos and she said that she had a tattoo on her stomach. From one of her photos I had already noticed that she had this as a tiny bit of her belly was exposed on one photo. She said she was about to have a bath so she may as well show me the tattoo. She texted 'I tried very hard to take a decent photo (in both meanings!)' and sent the photo. It showed her bare stomach with the tattoo on it and the bottom of her bare breasts. Like literally the bottom of the bare cups in the edge of the frame. I was quite taken aback but didn't say anything, just commented on the tattoo.Is this flirting? Or is it normal to do this? Was she literally just trying to show the whole of the tattoo?
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female
reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (24 December 2016):
Don't flirt if you're not interested in something with her.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 December 2016):
She might not be a very modest person when it comes to her body, she might be pretty relaxed about it and underboobs? Really not a humorously big deal.
Would I flirt back if I were you? No. Like you mentioned you aren't into her in THAT way, so why go THERE?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2016): I asked the question. Yeah I'm not necessarily looking for a relationship as she is so far away and I'm not THAT into her, I just wondered if it was the cue to flirt back or not. I mean, it's certainly not the kind of photo you'd send to your brother or father, is it?
She is kind of a blunt and slightly quirky person too. Like mentioning 'urgh I start my period tomorrow' etc.
Just wondering what kind of flirty response you guys would give to a photo where the under boobs are visible.
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female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 December 2016):
Yes and no,
Can be she did it for the attention and "shock-value" she KNEW she would get from you.
Can be she is LOVING her new tattoo and want to show it off for any excuse.
I do think it's a bit flirty to mention: "I was going to take a bath and thought I should take a picture for YOU of my tattoo"....
Would I read anything deep into it? Nah.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (23 December 2016):
Could be she is just socially awkward, or she was flirting. Someone not flirting and understanding in common decency would wear a bra or put a shirt on to cover the boobs. Bur then again she did make a point out of saying she tried to be decent.
Id just use this as a stepping stone to flirt more heavily back and test the waters.
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female
reader, clueless8989 +, writes (23 December 2016):
Definitely flirting.
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female
reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (23 December 2016):
I would say she is flirting. However, her aim is harder to determine.
Could be she is flirting because she fancies you and wants you to ask her out. On the other hand, she could be flirting because you are a safe distance away and she sees it as a bit of harmless fun.
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (23 December 2016):
Nope, not normal. She's flirting and not in a subtle way. Women don't really go around showing pics of their stomach and underboobs unless they're desperate for attention. And she was "about to have a bath" so she decided to show it? Why mention that? Looks like she just needed a reason. Way too sexual in more ways than one.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (23 December 2016):
If she could have shown it without her boobs, but showed them anyway, then she's confident in sharing suggestive pictures with guys, without any relationship status. To each their own.
If you like her, ask her out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2016): Hard to tell. She may just be a flirt as a person.
If you really wish to pursue it, then flirt back. Just remember... nothing fucks a friendship up like sex. If it leads to that, there will be no going back. But if it works it can often be the best foundation of a relationship.
She was flirting a bit with the pic, if she could show the body art without underboob, and certainly mentioning she was showering... she kinda left you open to respond to that.
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