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writes:I'm in love with a guy in my school, that's university.i met him in early September.My problem is, I don't really know whether he likes me just as a friend or more than a friend. Even though he constantly tell me he likes me, holds my hands often, hug me and even tried to kiss me(which I prevented because he has not proposed to me and I don't think it's right). A friend of mine told me he has a girl and when I questioned him about it, he got angry and said it was false accusations. I really love this guy and I don't know whether he feels the same. He has a lot of female friends and I'm sure I'm not the only person he acts that towards. I don't want to confess how i feel to him since I'm not sure how he feels for me. I really love him a lot. He can be so nice to me at times, and sometimes make me feel like I'm nothing.I don't really know whether he just wants to have sex with me or he really loves me. Dear Cupid please help me.
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reader, just say lovely +, writes (23 December 2016):
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reader, Nittynora  +, writes (23 December 2016):
 Maybe you are in love with him, but I agree with the other Aunties that this chap is a player, he wants attention. He also sounds like someone who would cheat. I would keep him at a distance and I wouldn't trust him as far as I could spit.He knows how you feel that's why he is nice one minute and makes you feel like nothing the next. Give him a dose of his own medicine and don't let your feelings run away with you, so you confess all.I would try and do some very discreet research on him and see what you can find out. You sound like someone who would love unconditionally and when you fall for someone you fall hard, but Save your love for someone who deserves it, it doesn't sound like he does. Like I say don't be overcome by feelings, because if you let him know how you feel and you find out hes a player you will feel even worse. xxx
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (22 December 2016):
 I agree, this isn't love, OP - you have a crush on him. Or rather you have a crush on who you "think" he is.
He likes to surround himself with as many girls as possible to get as much attention and affection as he possibly can. He likes for girls to think he is SUCH a "hit" guy.
He IS a player.
He isn't looking to get engaged or married or even date you. YOU are just ONE of many.
He knows you are into him and he hopes to USE that to HIS advantage.
I think the best thing you can do is stop wasting your time on this guy.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (22 December 2016):
 This isn't love, OP; it's a crush. You're infatuated with him, but he's not being clear with you.
The things you do together are couple things, so he shouldn't be doing it with just friends.
Ask him what you are to him and if he doesn't ask you on a public date, give up on him because he's not into you for a relationship.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (22 December 2016):
 He sounds like a bit of a player. By that I mean he likes to play with people's (i.e. women's) feelings.
You did the right thing, stopping him kissing you. He would have probably taken that as a sign that you would agree to other stuff as well.
Until he makes his intentions clear, keep him at arm's length. If he truly has feelings for you, he will keep fighting and eventually tell you how he feels. If not, then you will not have allowed yourself to be used.
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