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writes: how do i tell if my crush likes me?I'm naturely blonde so i act dumb sometimes.when i first moved here i didn't notice him at first until this boy that picks on every day.he stars at me and finds thing to anoy me.every day he would say oh this boy likes me then the next day he say that boy doesn't like me.(his name is cody)the one day he said Casey wants to bang me a boy with redish brown curly puffy hair was walking with him.I rolled my eyes and saying in my mind who is Casey.after school when i was walking my dog.that same boy that had puffy hair passed me.i smiled and said i know you he smiled back at me.then weeks later I look at him more I started falling for him.I finally found out hes Casey.well I like guys who are short,have red hair,freckals and i like them even more if they wear black.Casey has all that.hes kinda short the size i really like.then a month later i was being dumb I asked Cody do u want to know who i like he said no.then i said I'll give u a hint.i said he likes skulls.Cody then yelled Casey she likes you.Casey looked at Cody then at me then back to what he was doing.Casey loves to play chess.a few weeks later i asked Casey if he wanted to play chess he said sure.then 15 mins later i walked up to him(he was siting at the computer with his friends)i said Casey i thought u want to play chess he said later.then Cody and tommy said nobody likes you go away.then Casey said leave her alone.then Casey brought up Cody dick s probably this size(he showed the size with his figures)then i said it probably is.then the last day of school r lunches were messed up.me and Casey always had it at 5th but this time we had it at 3rd.i went to sit with my friend Lydia and her friend then all of a sudden casey sits in front of lydia.lydia was rite next to me.i looked at him then looked at Lydie and whispered in her ear omg.(she knows i like him)Casey looked at me.for some reason i cover my face with my hands and said don't looked at me then he smiled.then some reason me and Casey were doing the same thing.we were getting up and talking to each of our friends.then my sister came in to get her lunch.she got in line (Casey was siting at a different table)i got up and walked to my sister.( i think Casey might of been looking at me)then when i walked up to my sister i pointed who Casey was then i put my figured down.my sister was like eww.i saw from the corner of my eye Casey look at us but manly looking at me.then after school we walked our dogs.i was yaping my mouth off not paying atenchen.my sister grabed me and said looked.i turned my head it was Casey staring at me smiling.but then i turned away acting like it was nothing.then a week during the summer we took another street to walk our dogs.i saw Casey 15 feet up ahead.my dog barked funny.casey look back and turned back around with a smilethis year(9th grade) he acts so different.i don't have any classes with him.i see him at lunch,I catch him staring at me alot.my fried Brien even sees him looking at me.when i walk with my friend laugh and stuff he look rite at me.i can sit at 5 different table if i wanted.i stop at each of those table though.( i have friends that like anime,friends that like anime and r bi,friends that r in lower classes then me,and friends that r just bi)when Casey by himself.and i get close to him he looks rite at me,his face almost turns red and he quickly walks outside.he knows i like him.when i talk to him him he looks at me then looks away he keeps doing that,he has his hands in his pockets kinda moving them, and when he responds he replys in a low nervis voice.i said hi to him one time he turned around with out saying anything with a shy kinda scared look on his face.my friend JJ asked him if he like me without my permission and Casey told him that i look scary. a moth or 2 later i got my friend Sarah sence she knows his friends but doesn't know him, too talk to him and slip me into the conversation.he told her that he hates me.then a week later i was standing up talking to my friend John(hes tall and fat)(Casey and him know eachother). i could see Casey from the corner of my eye looking at me.I gave John a hug then Casey quickly turned away.I had 2 incidence in from of him that made me look like a lesbian.the first one was brien told Crystie that i thought she was hot.then at lunch i asked her what Brien told her.she said that i really like her.i said i think your pretty but i don't like you like that.then she got up from the table and said u don't think I'm hot.i got up to and said Crystie wait.she ran to the girl restroom.i chased after her.we both passed Casey.then i yelled Crystie wait.she said no.then she went into the girl bathroom then she ran out.we went back into the cafeteria. I said Crystie I do think your hot.she said lier.i think Casey heard that because he looked at me.when we passed him again i said i think your the most hotest girl in school.Casey quickly ran out side.a few days later.Casey was really hyper that day.he was going around messing with people.then he was about to pass our table.and i said is coming over here.i think he heard me because he froze.at the same time I accidentally grabbed Cryties hand and Caesy saw that.when he did he quickly went outsidethen a week later.this boy i been flerting with for about 2 week.i fallowed him.he gets in the same line as Casey.i didn't see Casey until he got close to me because I was to into Mason.Casey caught him flerting with me.Casey stared at me till he got to the back of the linei was upset a few days ago because i just found out people have been asking Casey if he likes me behind my back.he told each of them no and something diffrent with the no.he told 2 that i'm scary,one he told that he hates me and told me that i'm eww.but the day me and my friend bryen went up to him and straighten it out.we walked up to him when he was in line(i was holding bryens hand)i did the talking.I said casey.he looked then turned away.I told him anyways.I told him( he did not look at me just listened)i said i know theres been kids coming up to you asking if you like me.I have nothing to do with them.if they keep asking you just ignore them.he said alright.does he hate me:(a guy told me when i boy says yor scary lookin means they like youPlease i need answers...hes a virgo and I'm a piscesthis is what we have in common.his fav colors is black and redmine is black,blood red,dark blue,lighting pink and purplish maroon.he is obbsesed with clowns.I'm obsesed with Clowns and Jesters.We both love skulls.We both have the same tast in music.I know kinda of alot about him but I bet he knows nothing about me.heres what I look like[link]He knows I like him but he anores me when hes with his friends but when hes by his self he listen to me.there something about boys.when they like you and they find out that u like them they start to act different around you..why is that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): theres this boy in my class
people been tellin me that he likes me..i mean the whole class says that even the teacher
but i dont see it
theres these two girls say that he told them that he liked me but that was in the early in the year when he told them that they say
when the bell rings he walk me to my friends at the patio
almost everyday
and the other day i was him walkin with this girl and that made me think that he really dont like me but heres the thing when he was me he looked like he got scared
and then we never talked for two months cause somthing and i told some boy that was my friend to tell him that i was sorry and hopfully he can forgive me for what i done
and yes i like him
how should i tell him how i really fill toward him.....
what do i do???????
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reader, papaya414  +, writes (8 February 2009):
Ok I'm a freshamn and there is a senior that i like. i think he likes me too. He does these crazy things. he looks at me a lot. he stares at me during class and when i catch him, he looks away. he also talks to his friends and looks over their shoulders at me. he moves really close to me when we pass in the halls. (he looks at me then too)he 'accidently' touches my arms, hands, shoulders, and my lower back. he makes these crazy jokes and watches me to see if i laugh. i need to know if he likes me or if it's just wishful thinking.
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reader, Cherriepie +, writes (22 January 2008):
 Casey sounds like typical shy boy, and you have to be more aggressive as a girl to get a shy boy in your arms...that is what you want isnt it?
All this talk about who like who whether its among friends or afar is also typical high school dumb talk. He wont admit he like you, bacause it will make him look weak. Instead of all this playing around with who thinks likes who you have to get him alone sometime and tell him straight out. "I like you Casey. Can you be honest with me and tell me if you like me?" If he says no straight out, dont back off but tell him its a shame because you could be friends and could go out sometime. If he says yes...then ask him if he wants to go out with you and hang out.
All i see here is you are both liking each other but afraid to let down your guard because of what your friends will say. Who cares what they say. Keep trying to get in touch with Casey. Maybe his hormones haven’t caught up with yours. Give him more time to come around. You are both still very young and have a world ahead of you. Good luck, hun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsorry the link did not work.
heres the link to what i look like http://i29.tinypic.com/9a63rk.jpg
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): He likes you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI ahe enough answer.nomore please.
thank you=)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007): heyyy :)
he didnt come to church ok the world is not over...what was his excuse though?ok some people are telling you to let go but i know from me i used to have the biggest crush on this guy he used to tease me and hit me and make fun of me...so i kept waiting and he knew i liked him and everyone else did too...my friend started asking him about me and he always sadi negative stuff mean stuff...so then once i traveled and came back i guess he knew what i was worth so he asked me out...were not dating anymore now though but it was very nice and he actually still is in love with me now even though he has another girlfriend...he told me...so i give u the benefit of the doubt,people always always told me to let go but i couldnt at all i couldnt...so just wait and always be nice and maybe sometimes stay away so that he would start wondering why you aren't asking about him or anything and hell start missing you trust me all u need is time and hell be yours...always be nice ok!
take care silent jester :)
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (26 December 2007):
 Hey there...
If you want my honest opinion, I think you should let this go. Casey knows you like him (as does the rest of the school) and he has decided not to respond. Maybe he likes you and he is shy or he doesn't like the attention he is getting or maybe he has mixed feelings about the whole situation. The truth is there is nothing more you can do about it without smothering him!
In life we have a lot of opportunities to choose. What we wear, how we act, what we say. Sometimes we make good choices and sometimes we make bad choices and this is how we learn and how we grow. Casey has decided not to pursue something with you at this time in his life. This does not mean he doesn't like you, or that you are unattractive, just that he is not sure of what he wants right now or if it is with you he wants something with. You have to respect that decision and give him some space.
If this is a good or bad decision by him or if he will regret it later on or not is something only time will tell. If he does want something with you just let him come forward, give him the thrill of earning your companionship and or sentimental relationship. You do not need to pursue him, if he chooses to have something with you, he will take the necessary steps, he already knows you like him!
Bottom line: give him space and time. Let him come to you if he wants to. There are a whole other lot of fish in the sea!
Good luck on this one!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2007): Hi Hunny,
A very happy christmas to you and your family,
On the casey front love, maybe he is very shy and was maybe a little shy at having no top on...But there is a chance sweety that he is not thinking straight(if you no what I mean)And he did open the door, half naked a plus for you!!!!! plus if I were you id start to not pay him so much attention.
Give him some time to miss your attention hunny message me again anytime if u want love TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwesnesday I waled up to Casey when he was in line to get lunch.I'm not sure if he noticed me but i saw him look at me when i was talking to my friends.I walked up to him by myself.I gave him a hug when he was looking.he just stood there.then when i let go I said hi casey.he turned he head a bit and nodded it.thats some boys way of saying hi back,they think its cool that way.Later when I was eating lunch.I notice him staring at me with a different expression on his face then usel when he stares at me.it was a kind of look did that just happen.Today Chistmas eve.me and my sister went to his house about 3:30.My sister knocked at the door.Casey Answered.he had no top on and put on somewhat of a smile on his face.he notice my sister but he quickly closed the door as he looked at me.he didn't even give us time to say anything.i knocked this time.noone answered.so we droped the christmas cards on his door step.then later about 6:00 we had to go to church.we were in our dads truck.ass we passed his house we notice he got the cards
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): heyyy :) ok first of all no one should interfer...so u kindly ask all ur friends to back off
second i think the best way is to straighten out things with him yourself...that is talk to him tell him how u feel...and be alone,it seems he gets jealious everytime ur with someone else and the fact that there are couple of people interested in you scares him...i also think he has little relationship experience which also frightens him because he like su obviously and know u like him so it would be kind of serious so hes trying to figure out what he wants or if he can take it...i think he likes u alot and u should keep it cool and approach him as a friend before anything else...ask him about his day become intimate with him by talking sharing secrets and then ull be comfortable to tell him how u feel and he would have opened up to u for sure
tell me what happens :)
xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): Hi Hunny,
I found you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Im not going to say oh to be a teenager as it horrible at times as you have no idea whats going on and who's liking who most of the time so its a confussing time in life for many.
I think casey is shy and I remember only to well when I was at school what thats like, You friends telling him you fancy him, Well bless him he probably loves it shy or not he is getting so much attention, But if I were you I would tell my friends not to say anymore and see how things go from there, As if your being told everyday so and so likes you it kinda makes you want to run, well it did me as I was shy, Even though I may have liked kevin oooops! did I remember that far back!
If you can talk to him yourself and form a friendship then who knows what may happen, He obviously seems to be looking in your direction so take it slow, He knows you like him so there is no need for your mates to tell him again, You can give him a look at school to let him no your still interested and the chess thing ask him again tell him you would like to learn and see what happens but leave it a while, Dont jump in there you want him to think about you to so give him time to think without just knowing your after him desperatly ok...
Boys alway ignore girls when they are with there mates it the cool thing to do I wouldnt worry about that.
Just act cool...
You like all the colours I like, But the clowns ooooh no they scare little me :) But casey may think thats cool so give it time. Tell your friends nothing and give him a reason to look your way by not making things so obvious, slow down hunny, Good things come to those who wait.
Ive been to florida you hate it, I was only there 2 weeks so I didnt have much chance to hate it but snow white did do my head in, she is soooooo happy well she wouldnt be so happy waiting 3hrs to get on the E.T ride now would she..
lol...I hope this helps message me again if not take care with tons of love mandy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (19 December 2007):
 wow. that was pretty intense. ok let me think. i think this boy needs a bit of space. it sounds like hes getting a lot of hassle from your friends and from his friends and like people are constantly asking him about you or teasing him about you. you need to tell your friends to leave him alone and back off completely. give the boy a break.
then when he's had space for a few weeks you should wait until you see him outside of school and he is on his own then when it is just you and him ask him if he'd like to go out with you. if you ask him in front of his friends he'll most likely say no because he wont want them to tease him and if your friends ask him he might think they are winding him up or that its embarrassing so he'll say no just to get rid of them.
i dont know if he likes you or not, it sounds like hes sending mixed signals but you'll only know for sure if you handle it maturely and ask him on your own without anyone else being involved
good luck chicken
love brooke
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007): I think he is shy and concerned too much about what his friends think. It's been a long time ago and I can remember being the same when I was your age. I would be too embarrassed to admit to my friends that I liked some girl, especially if I thought that she didn't like me. I would be too afraid to ask her out for fear that she would say no. I think that Casey is the same as I was. I don't know if he likes you, but I think that he probably does. As far as what colors you both like or what signs you are, that doesn't matter. Your tastes in music are a little more important, but not critical. Their remarks to you about penis length and sex are just immature boys not being very considerate. Heck, I have heard men in their 30s make insensitive remarks like that around women. Some guys just never learn.
Back when I was in high school, it was unusual for girls to ask guys out, but I think that is more normal now. I was asked out by some women when I was in my 30s and that was over 25 years ago. I think that you should ask him out. He may even say no the first time because he is afraid of what his friends may think. If so, wait a couple of weeks to let him think about it and then ask him again. When I was 34, and after my divorce, I asked a certain woman out and she said no because she didn't like me much. Later, we were at a get together and I started talking to her. We talked for about an hour and I again asked her out. She reluctantly said yes and we had a very nice first date. To make a long story short, she has been my wife for the past 22 years.
Go for it. You have nothing to lose. And don't feel bad or rejected if he says no. He may just be scared. Even if he doesn't like you, it is not the end of the world. I got rejected many times. It doesn't feel good, but there are a lot of other guys out there.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (19 December 2007):
 I know a safe bet when I see it, and I think RCN says it best; clearly, and straight to the point. I think it's great advice to be followed, and I take nothing away from the other answers when I say that, because they are all pretty good.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (18 December 2007):
 You need to ask your friends to butt out completely, if you want anything with Casey to happen, you need to sort it out yourself. Although your friends probably mean well, and some of them probably are enjoying all the drama and gossip, if you let them run the show, you're going to mess up your chances with Casey.
It sounds tome like he's pretty confused, and it seems like you might have been unintentionally sending him mixed signals.
You need to get him on your own, whether you happen to come across him in the hallway at school or while walking the dogs, whether you send him an email or a text asking him to meet you somewhere, get him away from all your friends and anyone who might infetrfere.
Tell him you like him, and only him. Tell him you want a relationship, bring up all that you have in common (although I'm sure he's well aware).
All the right signs are there from him, it just sounds like it's got too messy with all these people getting involved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): ok mabe you should try and tlak to him i think its clear he knows u like him ut he sitn so fourth comeing mabe you should try and get some alone time with him to discuss it i think after a few yrs of being at school with him if he realy wanted to get involved in a relationship then mabe he would of said something to you by now. the best i can say is try and talk to him also i dont think someone your age should be discussing sex its not veryr repectable of the guys to tlak to you about it.
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reader, Slasher +, writes (16 December 2007):
 Oh...to be a teenager! LOL. From the looks of it, his friends doesn't like you very much. Most likely, his friends make fun of you so he's very hesitant on pursuing you. In your age group, it's important to feel cool so if his friends do not think you're acceptable he won't go after you no matter what you do. Relationships is not important to him right now...his friends are. So I think you ought to leave this one alone and allow him do some thinking. Don't make it a big deal when he's around...just act natural and have fun with your friends. In time, if ever, he'll make a move.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): I agree with the previous posters....I believe he likes you, but maybe just out of sexual interest, (a.k.a. fooling around).
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reader, rcn +, writes (16 December 2007):
 quit playing, and staring, and being so shy and ask him out. don't listen to anyone when they ask him if he likes you. boys that age don't tell the truth to their friends because of being made fun of. Protecting his image with his friends. I think the only way you'll find the truth is just ask him to go out with you. If it works out, great, if not, at least you'll know.
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reader, GreenTea +, writes (15 December 2007):
Oh to be young again!
I remember that age, how everything seemed like a sign that her and I were destined to be together.
If he likes you, and you like him, thats that. I think you know your answer already. I think your question should have been "What do I do?"
And thats tell him how you feel. Because if you tell him and he doesn't do anything with it then your not losing anything. But if he reciprocated you have just gained a new and fantastic relationship.
You will find as you get older that common interests are good. But in the end what makes relationships succeed are the way 2 people think. Introverted, or extroverted. If two people think alike, then their interest don't matter much. You will find that you take interest in their activities.
You need to not ignore what other people say, but think for yourself.
I think you need to find yourself some dignity. Because their is nothing in this world more attractive than a girl with her dignity. Don't be the dumb blond. I'm not saying you have to get all A's in school. I am saying that you need to approach everything with conscious thought.
First lesson on high school. Forget about middle school and what happened. people are mean to each other because everyone is insecure. So just forget it happened.
If he plays chess, do you really think he wants to be around someone who acts like a ditz? Probably not, he probably wants a logical thinking type.
The beautiful thing is that you can become that. A lot of those girly magazines like 17 or Vogue tell girls "Never ever change who you are!" But I disagree, you should always be changing yourself for the better. You should be able to point out your faults and attempt at fixing them.
Feel free to message me.
-Tea
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2007): Wow, that is quite a lot of story with not a lot happening on the Casey front.....I think he likes you, he doesn't run away screaming when he sees you, but he isn't paying you much direct attention either, so I guess you will just have to enjoy your crush from afar as he doesn't seem to want to be all that close to you or he surely would have approached you by now (two years of school together?)
Also, there is nothing really cool about a dumb girl (you say you act dumb sometimes and are naturally blonde) and there is a lot cool with a girl who is into her studies, and has some hobbies that involve some of her talents or skills, it makes her much more intersting to be around.
I don't understand the boys talking to you about wanting to bang you and some other guy's penis length, these are inappropriate comments to make to you and they show some degree of lack of respect. It is always to your benefit to react with distaste when a boy speaks to you in this manner, tell them to stop, if you want their respect.
When he says you look scarey or are scarey then I think that means that he is not so sure he should trust you as a friend, that you may seem to be a game player to him and a girl who is a little too much into only herself and playing around with boy's feelings, I dunno, just a guess.
I hope you are not seeing or servicing some guy's penis, but I suspect you are, why else would the size of some guy's penis be a topic of conversation among friends?
Here is your first clue, boys that age may be interested in fooling around, but they quickly lose respect for a girl who gives that to him and so easily, and all you get for it is a reputation.....Sorry if I am off track, but I am just following a hunch....
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