A
male
age
30-35,
*now patroll
writes:First off, I'd like to say that this is a wonderfull site, I have read alot off of it, and have learnt much.I'm 17 years old and my girlfriend is 16 years old (we are 4 months apart in age) Both are juniors in highschool. We have been dating for 10 months now.Everything has been fine for the first 9 months.. the tenth month came along and has braught upon many fights and arguments (over silly stuff.) 3 weeks ago, she came to my house and cried- she "wanted our relationship to be how it was before"We sat down and wrote discuessed what we BOTH had to change. For the most part we both upheld... but as the week progressed; more fights, over silly stuff, would break out. I finally proposed a small break 2 weeks ago.. I called her and smothered her a bit for the first 3-4 days because i felt bad.. it seemed as if the more i smothered her, the more irritated she would get.. then i decided to let it go and just carry on and let the time heal.. she would text me at 12 sayin she missed me.. or randomly IM me.. The mistake i would make is ask her "how are u feelin about everything" (sort to say "smothering her") and she would get angry.. (could be due to possible heridatry depression.)basically for a few days, untill 2 days ago, we didnt talk.. she would IM me, but that would solemnly end. PAST 2 DAYS:I started to talk to another girl, shes one of my old best friends.. My girlfriend seemed a bit jealous on AIM today.. asking me how she was (i went to the movies with her.. AS A FRIEND.)Since then she said she sees me more as a friend thAn a boyfriend.. she sayd "her feelings have faded." Now i dont know if these are temporary feelings, or feelings of anger.. (with my other friend) whenever im nice to her, she gets angry.. when i dont talk to her, it hurts me; but eventually compells her to talk to me. She does miss me, because she does IM me and text me at night, bust still wants me as a friend!Today i told her to call me if she felt depressed (i mentioned she seemed sad before), and she sayd shes not depressed... and that she just sees me as a friend, and noting else... whats there i can do? is it a passing phaze? should i just let her go fo ra week or so, and not talk?? see if she misses me?? Am i too late for anything, and just let it go?THANK YOU!!! for any suggestions, or even taking out the time to read it..
View related questions:
best friend, depressed, jealous, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Candy*kissess* +, writes (16 December 2007):
 If my ideas doesn't work and she's being childish again, try slowly losing interests in her.
Tell her, when she comes back,how much you love her and do anything to get her back. If you done everything you can from the bottom of your heart and she still doesn't apperciated it, forget about her. girls like those like to see guys beg, and a guy like you shouldn't be treated like that, you need to find a good girl who understands and mature.
lol im "almost mature" but I like to act childish just to be cute (in a good way).
write back!
candy kisses for you!
XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
A
male
reader, snow patroll +, writes (14 December 2007):
snow patroll is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyea i tried to leave her alone.. now that we're "friends" and shes leaving for the weekend to NY, i'll jus have to wait it out.. now that we are just friends, should i go back to the memories? she sayd "after our fights, i dunno.. the feeling like we had just faded"i wrote her nd recorded her a song; but that did little.. i dunno what to do, should i let it go? or follow thru.. i've let her go; but now i think its time for her to come back, and if she doesnt; then she just wasnt made for me..ny suggestions??PS:: thanks for the reply!! (candy_kisses) :)
...............................
A
female
reader, Candy*kissess* +, writes (14 December 2007):
I'm so Sorry,
Your relationship sounds like mine A LOT. My boyfriend would try to talk to me nicly and get me gifts, but in return I get mad at him and tell him to go away. And when He doesn't talk I get even bitch-er.
To solve a problem out like this is to "spend extra time" with her. Do what you do to make her happy? Repeat and rememind her the old fun times.
Ex: Me and my boyfriend been datin for 1 year n 3 month (both juniors), in the begininng we use to sneak out and sneak into the city park and hangout looking up at the stars.(I missed the old days) Or we would use our lil phrase "He's my sugga daddy, She's my candy girl, our love is the sweetest thing in the whole wide world." I thought it was cute but everytime I thought aboout it i'm just like a kid in a candy store always wanting to come back for more.
So yeah, try some of those old times stuff and things would be improving.
good luck!!
XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
...............................
|
