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writes:My parents doesn't like my boyfriend sleeping in the same room with me when he comes over. I can see that as normal when you're 16, however, I'm 25 and my boyfriend is 27. My parents are the traditional ones that believes you should sleep on the same bed after you get married. However, they're ok with my younger brother sleeping in the same room with his girlfriend. How unfair. My boyfriend travels 2 hours to see me on the weekend. My parents wanted him to stay in the basement, and at night, I have to go back to my room (2nd floor). Is there a way I can express to my parents this is silly without getting into a fight with them? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): I am going through the same exact thing. I'm 24, my FIANCE 25, and we can't stay in the same room because it's "inappropriate". Yet my 20-year-old brother and his girlfriend are not only permitted to hole up in his room, but they give us all an earful (if you get my drift...) every time they're up there. My fiance and I would NEVER be disrespectful like that. I have no idea how to handle this without sounding whiny.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): You're old enough to tell them to shove it and he'll be sleeping with you whether they like it or not.
Flynn 24
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reader, Twirly  +, writes (9 April 2008):
 Hi There,
I feel for you but think perhaps it may be time for you to move out and get a place of your own. Unfortunately if you are living under their roof then they have every right to enforce their rules.
This may be the time to move out. x x x
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 April 2008):
 If you are staying with your parents,
your parents rules applies in that house.
It may not seem fair to you but you have to respect them.
They have their own values and traditional thinkings.
You do not want to quarrel with your parents .
When you are on your own , you can do whatever you want or like.
You cannot change their ways.
It will only make them sad.
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reader, Yargh  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 I have the same problem, and I am 26 with a 33 year old boyfriend. When he and I visit my parents we are put in two separate rooms. I find this especially silly as we currently live together. Although, my mother was extremely upset when I decided to move in with him. In my case I am just giving it time, as it only comes up once in a while. However, it seems that you have to deal with it more often. Is it financially possible for you to move out on your own, or move in with him? If not, I would explain to your parents that you value the time you get to see your boyfriend, and do not want to sleep apart. Realistically, I think the thought of their children sleeping with other people and possibly having sex is an unpleasant one for most parents. Its not particularly rational, but you have to accept that it may never change. Best of luck to you!
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 wow well u know how parents are..for them you are still their baby girl!!!well don worry just tell them you want your boy friend to stay with u and that its very inappropriate of them to make him stay at the basement..you are mature enuf hun come on your are 25!!u definitely can make your own decisions and have the right 2..its sweet that you still listen and respect your parents continue to do so but just make your point i am sure they will under stand but its kinda weird that they let your brother stay with his girlfriend..hun please speak up!!!n tell your parents!!!
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