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writes:I realized this a while ago, but now I'd like someone's input on it. So fast forward, my sex buddy does oral sex or atleast did. When I met him he did and he even offered but it never happened. It was actually my first and I was a little shy. After my first time we had sex alot of times and I even went down on him but he never did. (He was actually the first I gave oral to as well) I'm sure he's went down on alot/or maybe a few girls. I'm not making this a big deal or anything, but to me I like when a guy does that because I feel like I kinda own him a little. Idk, its just my thought of thinking he likes to taste me and I taste him in return. We both please each other. So fast forward, I started messing around with some other guy who does do oral, because I was curious to see how it felt, wasn't any biggie to me..or was it just him? This other guy really likes to taste me and all. He even started to liking my behind(I didn't know any other apropriate way to say it). He does it all the time. Guys always compliment me on my vagina and stuff. So does he think I'm dirty or something? I'm not in desperate need of it, but getting some oral from him would be nice. It's always nice to give and receive. Did the other girls tell him to do it and he did, or did he just do it for them? I don't wanna ask and sound like a pain in the ass but I'm just curious. He's told me some experiences of messing with a girl who's vagina didn't look so pleasant, so was he scarred by that? Or because I'm not asking he's not doing? But the other guy I never ask but he always does. I know sex is about pleasing both partners...so is he just being selfish?
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reader, Redstars14  +, writes (6 August 2010):
If you want him to give you oral ask him to.. he's not going to know you want him to if you don't. If you find that too embarrassing or awkward then maybe you shouldn't be having sex with the guy if you don't feel completely comfortable with him...
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reader, dirtball +, writes (6 August 2010):
 You know what, thinking a bit more about this I had another thought. If he does know that you're having sex with someone else, that could definitely be a major turn off from him performing oral on you. I personally don't do the whole casual sex thing, but if I was in his shoes, I'd be a little worried about if I'd be getting a little extra surprise when I went down on you. But those are my hangups. Personally I love oral, both giving and receiving. But I will only do that if my partner isn't sleeping around on me.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (6 August 2010):
I too was really confused by the jumbled mess in your post. Yikes. Ok, so you have two sex buddies. Or do you have more? Your comment about guys always telling you that you have a nice vagina "and stuff" makes me wonder. Are you showing it off to a bunch of guys?
Anyway, it doesn't really matter as long as you're being honest with them about your intentions. If you want him to do it, just ask. People should communicate during sex, it's the only way we can make sure we're satisfying eachother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): First of all your post is very confusing. If I understand correctly, you have two sex-buddies. one of them goes down on you without you asking him to; the other one does not go down on you and you also do not ask him to. Actually, I recommend you stop comparing your sexual partners like you are doing now. Sex will always be different with a different person. If you really want oral, just ask for it...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): I don't think there's anything wrong. Sounds like lack of experience on his part. Some people like oral more than others. When it comes to sex people have a varied idea of what they like or don't like. Most guys in your age range are usually in to big of a hurry to get in and get off. They want to skip the forplay and just do it. A great lover should take care of your needs before his own.
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reader, xAx +, writes (6 August 2010):
 Just some men don't like doing it. It's just the same thing like some people like marmite, some people don't.
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