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writes:Hello. My daughter is 17 and she has a boyfriend. I think they have been together for around 2 months now.I am really not sure how teenagers act when they are in love but I think she may be falling in love with this boy. She is always asking if she can go round his house or whether he can come round her house. she is with him a lot and everyday after college he walks her home and they both stand outside our house kissing and hugging for about 2 hours.Do you think she is in love? If she is I am obviously very pleased for her. (Before you ask, I have tried talking to her about it but she doesnt like talking about boys with me so we never get anywhere).
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reader, sunshine99 +, writes (14 March 2007):
 hormones, hormones, hormones!!!. At 17 your daughter probably thinks she is in love. All you can do is give your daughter space and let her have fun with this guy. Just be there for her - a shoulder to cry on - if anything goes wrong - that's all you can do as a parent. She will open up to you when she is good and ready. Good luck
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reader, answers4u +, writes (22 February 2007):
 Hi
I will like to say that because it's the honemoon period of the relation ship u can't tell if itz love or just infatuation because at the age of 17yrs most girls love to have a relationship and = hormones are raging so just give your daughter her space and in time she will open up and tell u her emotions etc.
I hope this works up and m,y advice is gd
THNX
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (20 February 2007):
 Hi again,
I don't think there is a surefire way of knowing whether or not she's in love. Love isn't necessarily something you wear right on your sleeve. It can be very personal and very deep. If their relationship lasts for a long time, they both seem happy and solid wth each other... well, that's a good way of telling.
Love can take a long time to bloom. Sometimes months, sometimes years! For your daughter, falling in love will be a very special, very personal experience. It'll be hard to tell, but if she seems happy, settled and comfortable with her man say, a year from now... well that's a good sign.
xxIndia
P.S. AskEve gave you great advice.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (20 February 2007):
 They have known each other for almost 2 months so they are obviously very much in the "honeymoon" period of their relationship. They are spending as much time as they can with one another, getting to know one another and finding out that hormones really DO exist! lol
Try being friendly and chatting to the boy when he comes in, ask them if they want some tea or coffee and get to know him a bit better. I'm sure your daughter will be well pleased if she sees you two both get along. Then when he leaves tell her he seems like a nice enough boy and ask her how she feels about him, where they met, how he asked her out etc. Let her know how you met her dad or things you did with your first love.
They both certainly sound pretty smitten. Two months isn't that long but maybe in time it could become quite serious as they open up and get to know one another more.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): hello i posted this question. thank you for your advise Taste of India.How do you think I will know when she falls inlove if I don't ask her?Isn't there anyway of telling whether she is or not?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (20 February 2007):
Hey there,
How sweet! Sounds lik eyour daughter has found herself quite a catch. And it might be in the early stages of 'falling in love'. Right now it sounds like she really, really, really likes this guy and maybe after some more time, they might fall in love. Two months isn't a very long time.
If you want to talk with her, this is what my mother used to do. She'd take me for a little light shopping, (late in the evening), we'd go see a chick flick and then she's take me out for a late night dinner. Late at night, with some food... all my secrets, boy stories and friend drama always came pouring out of me. It was a process, but it was successful. Everytime.
It was a lot of fun, and I really enjoyed myself. Maybe you should try that if you want to get your daughter to open up to you! Have some fun! Be friends, buddies for awhile...
I think it's great that you're happy for her and that she seems happy with her guy! Maybe she is falling in love with him and this will be the beginning of a great love story!
Enjoy watching it bloom!
xxIndia
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