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writes:I really like this older guy a lot. I think I know he digs me too, but I do not know how to make a move. He is like 7-10 years my senior and we don’t have too much stuff in common. What do early to mid 30 year old guys want in a girl? What do the look for? What should I do? We clearly don’t listen to the same music or stuff so I don’t know how to go about this. Please help; thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, kenny  +, writes (20 February 2007):
 To say what a guy in his early to mid thirtys is looking for in a girl varies as not everyone is the same.
Like Eve says how do you know that you don't have much in common?. After a couple of months of dating him you might be suprised to find that you have lots in common.
I think you should just go up to this guy and start chatting to him, and obtain information about him this way.
At this sort of age most mid thirty's would most probably have given up on the clubbing stage, and would most likely prefer a nice meal out somewhere.
Good luck x
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reader, AskEve +, writes (20 February 2007):
 How do you know you don't have much in common? Have you spoken with him before or is it just because he's a bit older than you are? Some guys in their mid 30's are looking for their perfect woman to settle down with, others are enjoying just playing the field, others are maybe just out of bad marriages or relationships and others are totally career focussed, it really all depends on the individual.
Most men in their thirty's should be a bit more experienced in what life throws at you so they should be more immature, however this is not always the case. If you like him and he likes you there's no reason why you can't go up and talk to him and ask him what he likes and dislikes. You are only talking after all. See his reaction, listen to his answers and watch his body language. If he really IS interested (and hoping that he doesn't actually have a partner) then he should make the next move ie ask you if you want a drink, ask you out for a drink, meal etc.
Don't come over too heavy or desperate, just keep it friendly and play it by ear.
Eve
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