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writes:hi i have a boyfriend i love him but i dont think am in love. He was my first boyfriend, dated since we were 18 am 21 now and live together. He is very protective over me and a bit older, 29 doesnt let me out on my own etc.The thing is I am failing for a guy at work. I have met up with him a few times out of work as friends. He's a great guy and I like spending time with him, he's really funny, nice to be with and I can tell he likes me.I'm just confused on what to do it, it just seems he's right for me but I have a bf aleady but I'm always thinking about this guy at work.please help with adice, its driving me crazy.
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reader, Dizme  +, writes (3 November 2010):
Sorry to say it but sounds like your current is a bit protective and that may be driving you away. Explore your feelings and really think. Let him know how you feel. It may be time to break it off. Especially since you are considering other options. The lamest thing that anyone can do to anyone in a relationship is start a new one before they end the old one. So if you have any respect for the current BF don't go behind his back like that. Hope that helps.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (3 November 2010):
 When you are infatuated with someone, your reasoning ability goes down while your imagination goes wild. The object of your desire has the ability to lead you to idealize him while find faults with the one you have.
When I was single, no one noticed me. I had the feeling I was going to be lonely forever. Once I had a boyfriend (please don't ask me where I met him), everyone was all over me. Like they see an opponent and that motivates their competitive drive.
Do the things you used to do with your boyfriend and see if you could get this guy out of your mind. If you couldn't, that's a sign that chemistry isn't right between you and your boyfriend. Break it off before you go for the other guy. Don't be too hard on yourself. He should have known better not to date a young inexperienced girl.
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