A
female
age
51-59,
bootydoctors
writes:Pinkee Here~ Lately, I have been reading the book The Good Girl’s Guide to Bad Girl Sex by Barbara Keesling, Ph.D. Barbara is a sex therapist, author, and columnist, and has much to say on this topic. Unfortunately, most women fall into the “good girl” category. Here’s how to tell which type of woman you’re in relationship with and some ways you may be able to help her become “bad” if she’s, like most women, “good”. In this approach, in case you hadn’t yet realized, “bad” is actually “good”, AND secretly, almost all good girls want to be bad girls. Good examples of Bad Girls are Pinkee (that’s me) and Lila (also a Booty Doctor). Although I have always been a Bad Girl, according to her stories, Lila used to be a Good Girl and is now converted, which should give hope to all you guys out there in love with Good Girls. Just look at how well SHE turned out! You May be With a Bad Girl if:~She loves sex ~She thinks about sex as much or almost as much as you do~She wears panties that make you think about sex, OR she just doesn’t wear them~She is assertive and directive-you know what she likes and she asks for it~She enjoys having sex with the lights on~You have had sex with her in just about every room of the house~She is intensely orgasmic~She doesn’t necessarily show a lot of skin, but the way she dresses makes her feel (and look )sexyOn the other hand, your partner may be a Good Girl if:~ She’s concerned with doing and saying the “right thing”~She’s always respectful, kind, decent, and modest~She’s always a “lady”~She wears a lot of clothing from places like .L.L Bean, Talbots, or Anne Klein~You’ve never seen her naked because she won’t change in front of you and insists on turning the lights off during sex~Your mother would love her~She wears granny panties~You don’t even know whether she’s orgasmic because she is mute during sexNow, if you’re with a Bad Girl, congratulations. You’re probably very happy in the sex department. If you’re with a Good Girl, however, take heart. There ARE some things you can do:1. Realize that this could be a touchy subject for her, so approach it gently. For instance, rather than saying: “I wish you’d be different”, you might start with asking whether she ever fantasizes about being a little naughty.2. If she is open, (and this may take several conversations),definitely recommend the book by Barbara Keesling (above).3. Be sure to encourage any little change she makes that is a move in the right direction. Remember, what you put your attention on grows, so DO appreciate out loud anything remotely similar to Bad Girl behavior.4. Buy her some Bad Girl gifts. Start out with the ones that no one but the two of you will know about, like some sexy but not TOO over-the-top lingerie.5. Be patient. She has probably spent all of her life being a Good Girl. Change doesn’t happen overnight.
View related questions:
orgasm Reply to this Article
Share |
You can add your comments or thoughts to this article A
female
reader, bootydoctors +, writes (10 May 2010):
bootydoctors is verified as being by the original poster of the question Dear BettyBoup,I know things are not black and white, but it sounds like you may be a general bad girl but since your partner is not a "bad boy" you haven't been so bad girl-ish lately. Sound like a bit of a compatibility issue.Good luck with all of it!Pinkee
A
female
reader, bootydoctors +, writes (10 May 2010):
bootydoctors is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear Madalo 1,
I don't think that disqualifies you for being a bad girl! ;)
Pinkee
...............................
A
female
reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (6 May 2010):
I like the article.I was gonna congratulate myself as a bad girl until i realised i dont like the lights on....Well,not 100% darkness,but some dim romantic light like candles or dark coloured bulb like blue.
...............................
A
female
reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (27 April 2010):
 Hmmm I have some from both good and bad. I love sex and want it more than my boyfriend. I've tryed to be directive but it comes out wrong and he says I'm being demading when I ask for what I want. When I suggest some kind of wild sex he is either disintereted, or says yeh maybe one day we'll do that, or he acts disgusted.
But then again some of the good girl things are true and some of the bad ones aren't, like I'm not orgasmic, with him. And I'm kind of respectful, kind, decent, and modest or try to be, or am with most people. I'm a little uncomfortable being completely nakid with the lights on, but can do it. And I'm not mute in bed but I'm not as 'loud' as I have been in the past, perhaps due to lack of orgasmicness. So maybe I need to work on the confidence and orgasmicness side of my bad girl. Then my confidence would shine through and I wouldnt be demanding, but seductive... I dunno lol. Interesting read tho! Maybe there needs to be a book for bad boys for my partner!
...............................
A
female
reader, bootydoctors +, writes (26 April 2010):
bootydoctors is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear trigger18,
The most important thing, in my opinion, is for us all to have as much fun as possible with our sexuality. Yeah I highly recommend the book. Good luck with your mission to be Bad!
Pinkee
...............................
A
female
reader, trigger18 +, writes (25 April 2010):
i actually really like these ideas. i think this book would be a very god insight to something that i think my boyfriend would like me to become. i think im somewhere inbetweenthe good girl and the bad girl but the book sounds very intriging.
...............................
|
