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writes:Is it reasonable to date women if you have only met them once or twice?I ask this because I'm tired of "hanging out" in mixed sex groups and making friends with women instead of pursuing a relationship. I find this form of courtship useless because I'm insensitive to any interest from women but I'm not sure if dating will work.Are women open to going on dates with acquaintances or do they prefer to "hang out" first?It seems to be a endless circle but the less experience I get the more likely I'll be unsuccessful. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (15 February 2013):
 how else would you meet someone to date?
I think this is a younger generation phenomenon.... when I was 18-21 we had groups in college that sat together at the union and stuff but we never group dated... not even in high school....
if a guy caught your eye you flirted he asked you out... it was not convoluted.
if you met a guy say in the bookstore or something and didn't know him from anywhere else, if he asked for your number and he was interesting to you, you gave it. Then you went home and waited to see if he would call. See we didn't have cell phones back then... the only way to talk on the phone was to be connected to the wall...at home...
the question "where are you " was not part of telephone conversation... you were HOME to get phone calls
I really wonder if texting and cell phones and instant contact has made true dating obsolete.
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reader, R1 +, writes (15 February 2013):
 Yeah, if you hang out with them too much first you risk falling into 'friends' rather than something more. Dating is a risky game, you will get rejections but everyone does so it isn't a reflection on you. Be brave ask girls out, if they say no just move on!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2013): Yeah of course OP, that's how I've gotten most of the women in my life. Women are even willing to sleep with you the first few hours after meeting you if you play your cards right.
Stop over thinking things and go back to a caveman mentality. "Me like, me talk, me ask out". It's simple.
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts  +, writes (15 February 2013):
 Women do date guys they've met once or twice :) Better to ask them out as soon as you know you like them, otherwise you might find yourself in the situation where they've 'friend-zoned' you.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 February 2013):
 I've been asked out by complete strangers in places like train stations, airplanes, grocery stores, etc... and as long as we've talked for at least a little while (so I can make sure they aren't completely nuts) I've usually said yes.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 February 2013):
 Why not ? Lots of women even go out with men they have NEVER seen before- from dating sites or other Internet venues.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (15 February 2013):
 I've never really been into 'hanging out' first, I find it a bit of a waste of time if the ultimate purpose is to be in a relationship. It is just delaying the inevitable!
I'm sure many girls would be open to going on a date with you if you have recently met. For example if you meet a girl in a bar/club on a night out, you exchange numbers and maybe talk over text for a few days then you ask her out, and I'm sure most girls in this scenario would agree to a date.
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