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writes:i've been crying all day. i really don't know what to do. let me explain. my hubbie and i went to a neighbor's party this weekend. there were about a dozen people there including my good friend vicky and her husband carl. it was good at first but we all had too much to drink. i suggested we skinny dip in the pool. so we were all relaxing in the pool naked except for arthur (the host) and his wife barbara. arthur just sat on the deck chair and drank his beer. barbara was cleaning up. we all split into couples. my husband and i were making out.barbara came out and was surprised to see us all naked. she asked arthur if this was his idea and he started swearing at her. then she said let me join the fun and started stripping for us. we were all cheering as she threw her clothes at us. she had a good body. but then she really crossed the line. she swam over to carl and kissed him, then climbed up his shoulders and rubbed her pussy in his face. they started having sex right there in the pool. vicky got out of the water. she was crying. i felt so bad. carl didn't even care, he just kept fucking barbara.all the women went inside to comfort vicky. the men stayed outside except for my husband who came with me. barbara was so loud it was disgusting. and the other guys had joined in by now. arthur fell asleep while his wife was having sex outside. the wives were fuming. my husband called a cab to take us home. i felt really bad because this all started with me. then the guys came back inside carrying barbara to one of the bedrooms. we could hear them all having sex. the cab got there and we went home.i have been sick to stomach since saturday thinking about this. i was proud of my husband for not taking part but yesterday he wanted to visit our neighbors. i got so pissed off thinking he just wanted to go fuck barbara behind my back. i'm having jealous thoughts all the time now and i start crying for no reason. my husband got mad and said i didn't trust him. he said that after being the only guy who stayed faithful that night he deserves better. i know he's right but it drives me crazy to think that he wants to go see her and maybe he was just too afraid to do it with me there. so i said absolutely not, he cannot visit our neighbors. what do i do? i'm really confused!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009): Seriously people? This guy seems like a good person and maybe he wants to help the couple in question deal with the issue. Maybe the Arthur guy needed a friend to talk to. Banning him from going to a neighbor's house is a bad idea. You can't decide to put him on a leash because you have trust issues. There are good men in the world, and maybe you have yourself one. Be grateful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): This shocked me so badly and upset me.
That barbara is a slut and those men are disgusting bastards especially that carl man.
I would be careful as the only reason he may of not cheated on you at the party because YOU were there but you say hes going round to the neighbours alone.This worries me a lot.I think you need to talk to him about how you upset you feel and tell him to stop going round to their house.You say she had a good body maybe you are not the only one who thinks so...I respect your husband a lot though for not doing anything at this party but still be careful
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): you cannot tempt fate so yes banning him from visiting the street whore was an excellent idea. maybe your hb just likes his sex party private or he is really a good guy but one thing for certain, plse do not let him be around your good neighbour. your hb may not see how this has affected you but surely he is not blind or stupid. why does he actually want to go see her anyway? does he also want some action.
do you friends/neighbours have (sex)orgies often?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 June 2009):
 Good call babymama.
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (17 June 2009):
 This just dosen't seem right. your trying to tell me that out of a dozen people, 6 couples, no one, not one person said anything to their husbands while they were having sex with this woman. and the woman whose husband was first in line just got out of the pool and left crying into the house???? and the other women leave their husbands behind and then watch when they carry this woman to the bed room to finish.
If and I repeat If this is true. they deserved exactly what they got. Because if that woman had even approched my husband like that she would have gotten her head served to her on a platter. and the husband would have been sittng his behind on the curb with the rest of his belongings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): Id stick to your guns, no way would i agree to him visiting them. Im sure he will not visit them once he see's how upset it will make you. And if he goes anyway? well im sure you have an idea why...
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reader, holikdad +, writes (17 June 2009):
Why in the hell would you suggest that a group of adults get naked and go swimming???
It sounds like you had designs to have a big orgy. And since you started it your husband now thinks that you don't have a problem with him getting naked with someone else.
I'm tired of people trying to use alcohol as an excuse for promiscuous behavior. Now you have to live with the consequences.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): If you husband was faithful to you during the wild party, what makes you think that he will betray you now?
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reader, betty_black  +, writes (17 June 2009):
 To start with i have to judge Barbara and say WHAT A SLUT!!Your husband was the only man that stood by his wife, saw it was wrong and got out of there. Being a man you would expect him to join in with all the others, but he escaped it before he did anything to hurt you, because he loves you. You have to trust him. He may have gone round to visit the husband not her, who knows? If he wanted anything to happen i'm sure he would have done it when he was there in the moment. You have to be happy that you have a good faithful honest man there who loves you and stop worrying about it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): First of all honey, that was clearly NOT your fault.I am not sure what his motives were for going over to the neighbors, but maybe the next time you should go with him.Stand your ground if you feel it is warranted to do so.Barbara sounds like a whore to me if she is fucking all those people at that party..keep her away from your man! Trust me, no matter how much he swears he wouldnt cheat, most men do.Not ALL men, but a good amount.He probably isnt going to but just be careful.But I sure as HELL wouldnt trust her at all.Hope it helps , babe.
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