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writes:Do guys usually have an idea of how a girl's body would look like without clothes? Or are they completely surprised when the clothes come off?I have an average body type, more so on the thin side. But I'm not lean and fit with muscles. Guys can see that WITH clothes ON, can't they? I wouldn't want a guy to be disappointed, which in turn would make me feel bad and insecure, if he was totally surprised at my body.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2011): I normally have a pretty good idea what to expect, but a woman's body is never exactly what I'd thought it would be.
Typically, for me, by the time I get to the point in a relationship that I'm going to see a woman naked I already know I'm going to like her body. I can only think of a couple instances (alcohol was involved) in which I got naked with a woman and it turned out I was not that attracted to her (as I'd expected before we got naked, but I went ahead anyway).
It might be different for other guys, but I almost always discover something about a woman's body that is a little bit of a pleasant surprise in terms of how attracted I am to her. There are certain things I almost always end up finding especially attractive once I've been with a woman a few times.
Also, if I really like a woman, I tend to focus on the features I like rather the ones I don't. There's really no point in focussing on a feature I find unattractive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2011): OP no ones body is perfect and seriously no guy expects a woman's body to be perfect, we're just too busy being delighted that we have a naked woman in front of us.
Look we're the exact same as women in that respect. I can safely say you, like most other women, will probably go through your entire life without ever being with a guy who is disappointed when he sees you naked. Plus you may not realize this as it may not be as popular a concept but most of us guys are pretty self conscious about that too. Not only that but we have definite thing between our legs that you have no way of judging with our clothes on, so we have even more reason to be worried whether you'll be disappointed with that.
The best piece of advice I can give you, is don't let your discomfort hold you back from actually getting naked in front of your boyfriend/lover when the time is right. If you want to see real disappointment, keep yourself covered up when intimate. I dated a girl like that and she actually thought I was disappointed with her body but I was actually disappointed she wouldn't show it so I could play with it.
At the end of the day we guys love all body types, shapes and sizes, the same as you girls do. And the same as you girls, we have a massive personal range of what we like, regardless of the type we prefer. I personally love all bodies, except for very thin and morbidly obese, anything in between is sexy for me. It doesn't matter if the woman has stretchmarks, moles, scars, tattoos, piercings, extra weight, cellulite or all of those, she'll still be sexy to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo guys know what to expect. Thinking about it, I could guess too how a guy's body will look like. But I don't know, I think guys are too judgmental, the whole "guys are visual" thing pops into my head. And haha the bra thing as well! I'm glad you brought it up Cerberus.
I just can't imagine (at least not now) how someone can be comfortable naked in front of someone else.
Thanks for answering my question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2011): OMG, the male ego - you asked for it - no men can not definately tell what is under clothes any more than a woman can. They can imagine but they do not have xray vision. They do not have special powers - they just like to think they do!! Ha ha. One thing is right that has been said here already though - that men like confidence - so just look after yourself and feel confident about what you have it's that easy!
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (9 May 2011):
 I can usually picture what a girl would look like but it's not about being surprised at what you find it's more about the person with the body that makes it special.
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reader, Withheld  +, writes (9 May 2011):
Trust me, before the clothes come off men pretty much know what to expect.The previous poster mentioned how the shape of breasts will change when a bra comes off, but that shouldn't be a concern either. Every man knows what a bra does for breasts (unless he's never seen a naked woman before, in which case he'll be so excited that he wouldn't even notice the change).The only things to catch me off guard in the past have been an unexpected tattoo (her ex's name) and one girl had full armpit hair. But even these scenarios didn't take away from the moment. I suppose a piercing could throw somebody for a loop too, but most men aren't that picky.The important thing to realize is: a man won't base his decision to have sex with a woman purely off of what he thinks her body will be like. A man usually makes this decision because he finds her emotionally and intellectually stimulating, respects her, and most importantly: feels attracted to her.So don't worry if your body isn't "perfect". His probably isn't either, and he's likely worrying about the same things you are!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2011): Yeah we do, even those girls that think they're being clever by wearing clothes to force their body into a different shape don't fool us.
The only thing that is ever a surprize to us is boobs and only when we're inexperienced in seeing bras come off.
Most girls boobs aren't the size and shape that they look when in a bra. That's why women wear bras. To make their bobs look pert, bigger and symmetrical. But most boobs aren't like that at all.
Now even though the sudden change in shape from what we're used to seeing with the bra on, it doesn't mean we're ever disappointed by them, because we just love boobs.
I can't speak for American men, although I do hear they're far more superficial than most other nationalities, American women are too. It by now means says that they will be disappointed. The most disappointing thing for any man is to be with a woman that really hates her body. Other than that we're very happy just to have a naked woman in front of us, regardless of her body type.
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (9 May 2011):
Hi - Guys can definately see what type of body is under clothes - its interesting actually since people with better than average bodies - either slim and well proportioned or fit bodies usually fit their clothes well also and tend to wear tighter fitting clothing cause they can and so guys will see more than looser fitting clothing.
But at the end of the day, guys are more interesting in the hair, the height, the face, and then maybe the legs, bottom and breats but a narrow waist helps - their is nothing sexier than a woman with nice hips walking past you. If a woman is comfortable in her body thats the sexiest thing ever - and once she's naked - if she is confident and knows what gives her pleasure and wants to also give pleasure then she will be lots of male attention regardless of how thin she in. Bony girls are literatly a pain the crotch....their sit bones stick out and hurt when having sex....
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 May 2011):
 Ah this is such an American problem. Move to Europe and you won't have it. Not that European guys like obese, flabby women, they don't . Yet they are not so obsessed with hard bodies and tight muscles, and actually think that women with the biceps of Madonna or Cameron Diaz are ... bleah.
Beauty is, at least within limits, in the eye of the beholder. There are different body types and textures and they all, trust me, have their estimators. As long as you take reasonable care of yourself and your health , and feel at ease into your own skin, you'll exude sexy vibes whether you have a six pack or not.
You don't need some gym- bunny dickhead's validation to tell you if you are ok or not. Feel OK and you'll BE ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2011): Guys do have an idea... and unless you do something radical like stuff half your sock drawer in your bra they won't be fall off the chair-surprised when clothes come off. It's really about finding the guy where you both feel comfortable and trust each other. So don't just strip off for anyone ;)
If you wear baggy clothes, it can make you look like you have more weight on some people, whereas well fitting clothing will give them more of an idea. But if you feel a guy is good enough to see you without clothes on, then he should be decent and like you the way you are. I hope I am helping! But try not to worry, love the body you got.
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