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writes: I need help, I started dating a guy that was a childhood friend, and stuff started happening to fast and we fell for each other, but things got bad when we started putting our hands on each other and saying mean and hateful things to each other, and thur all this...i still love him, about almost 3months ago he left for florida, and we fight and tell each other were done and we never want to speak to each other again, but that never happens, we always seem to start talking again, its like we cant let go of each other, he recently started dating this girl about a month ago and he lied to me about dating her until now, but he still tells me he love me, wants me and misses me and blah blah blah, and i really dont know what to do. So if someone could help me out with some advice that would be great! Because i do love him, but i feel like its time to move on and i feel like i cant. because hes the first guy ive loved.
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reader, Nat8124 +, writes (4 September 2008):
Sometimes these first loves just stay with you forever and you never really get past them. It does get easier though, especially if there is distance involoved. If you think that he isn't right for you then he probabbly isn't, at least not at this moment in time. Trust me, if you are meant to be then then the chemistry will never fade and somehow you'll find your way back to each other, both maybe a little bit older and a little bit wiser enough to appreciate what there could be between the two of you.
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reader, lilgirly +, writes (4 September 2008):
the hardest thing you could ever do is get over the first boy you loved but.. sooner or later you have to do it!
you'll learn how to live without him..
and by time you'll find someone else to take his place..maybe you won't forget him totally but you'll be fine..
for now try not to think about him so much and try to find someone else..
and if there's ever a chance again with him..well life has it's mysterious ways:)..
good luckk!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): its time for you to move on. Someday, you may find a better person to love you and give you all what you want. As he has taken the decisions to move on from his life, so do you....
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): Move on, cherish the memories, leave on good terms, be happy and don't look back. There's different kinds of love. It's true that there's nothing quite like the first time you fall for someone, but people just grow apart, and sometimes it's just time to move on. I know it's harsh, it's tough to let go of people, but there's ways to keep in touch in the future, but right now, you need to forget about one another, briefly. You already know what the right thing to do is, so at this point, you just need the conviction to do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): im the same way........in love with a dude and strapped.this is exactly what happen to me *seriously*...idk what to tell you...just go by this sayin :if you love something let it go...and if it comes back then that's how you"-seven7
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