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writes:okay i have a question for all of you guys out there (girls feel free to answer if youve been in this situation). okay do all guys get grossed out by kissing thier partner after she gives you head? my boy friend doesnt want to kiss me after ive preformed oral sex on him (unless i brush my teethe after) because he says it makes him feel like he is kissing his penis. i think he is being silly and i think i deserve a kiss after have had giving him a sweet treat. i think i deserve to be appriciated a little and i want some kisses to show i am when im through. (not to mention i dont always have a tooth brush handy afterwards)it truly hurts my feelings when he just refuses to kiss me. i thought i might be over reacting, so i was wondering if all guys felt this way and i am just getting my feelings hurt for no reason or if he should just get over it and thank me with a smootch!!!! thanks!!!
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reader, SammiessAFreak +, writes (1 July 2010):
This Is what i think .
if you find a boy thats fine with you kissinqq him after he cumss then more power to you but NOT Every boy is going to be fine with it think of it this wayy
If he finger pops you ndd puts it in your mouth you would be grossed out becausee your tastinqq urself . if he cumss in your mouth ndd you kiss him hes tastinq himself
of course some boys arent that immature but sadly ALOT are ) :
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): I may be the only man to think and feel this way, but...when a girl is giving me head all I wanna do is kiss her! In my eyes giving head is the sexiest thing a woman can do for a man. it feels fantastic, when i come, if she swallows, i love tongue kissing afterwards...its so sexy and passionate! but thats just my opinion!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): I had heard this rumor before, so the first time i went down on my bf (he finished in my mouth) I just came up and layed on his chest, not expecting him to want to kiss me. but then he initiated a kiss...so i think this rumor as ruined some people!
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reader, Daveeeeeee  +, writes (14 February 2010):
 Naturally you deserve a Giant BIG kiss ! This guy doesn't know what hes missing out on ..hes silly . As others have probably said ..Just dont Blow him if he refuses to kiss you ... Imagine if you wouldn't kiss him after going down on you ? ..No head for him without a Big passionaite kiss !
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): I can't believe that I missed this one when the question was first asked. I kiss my wife after she gives me head. I also kiss her after I cum in her mouth. Common guys, if she is willing to swallow your sperm, why would you be too squemish to even kiss her after she does it. My wife was reading this and just said, "Hell, you kiss me down there after we finish sex."
If men are too turned off by their own sperm then I don't think they should expect a woman to be perfectly fine with getting it in her mouth or vagina.
Maybe it's a maturity thing like Finn and Collaroy said. I guess the mature and the old guys like me have just had the time to realize how great all parts of lovemaking are. Yes, lovemaking is a sloppy business and my wife and I like it that way.
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reader, pnsinhand +, writes (20 August 2008):
Yes you do....I tend to think it brings closeness to the the two of you. If it was my wife (who btw refuses to give me head), I would be turned on by it, and visa versa
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reader, rremm2000 +, writes (21 June 2008):
Well I guess I feel lucky then ;-) I'll usually hold it in my mouth and climb up and kiss him and it's gets very passionate and slipper between our lips...lol
I think he needs to get over himself after all I kiss him after he has gone down on me, it's always should be 50/50ish
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reader, oldfool +, writes (24 May 2008):
 If you've given him head and he's just come, it's unlikely that he wants to do anything. There is, to put it mildly, a massive drop off in sexual desire after ejaculation. What was a huge turn on 20 seconds before suddenly becomes a no no after he's shot his load!
If he hasn't come, then he's being silly. To taste his penis in your mouth -- come on, that should be great! However: I have found a similar phenomenon in women. That is, some women who love it when you go down on them show a certain ambivalence about kissing you afterwards. Yeah, it seems that there are some women who don't feel so enthusiastic about finding how their private parts taste. So I wouldn't worry about it too much. In time he may become a connoisseur of love and realise that he's missing out on some of the best bits!
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reader, WastedLife +, writes (23 May 2008):
This question is really weird. I'm a guy and would not touch another guy's body, but it's ME, not another guy. If I love someone I will go down on her and if she does the same with me and we both cum, it's wonderful, and the next logical thing to do is kiss each other passionately and deeply as we continue our lovemaking! When you are in a passionate state of union, it's just fine that you swallow each other's fluids with your own mixed in. Swallowing each other's blended fluids is just intimate, and nice.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (23 May 2008):
 AMEN "DiovanLestat".
For real. My boyfriend, for one, scoops me up and gives me a big ol' kiss after every time. Then again, my boyfriend doesn't have these silly hangups about his body.
Your boyfriend needs to get over himself. It's HIS body after all, it's just an extension of his skin. If he is so disgusted by his own penis, maybe you should be too! Maybe there's something wrong with it. It's just silly to be so uppity about it all!! Lighten up, fellas!
xx India
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (23 May 2008):
 Wow,
I cant believe all the guys who are saying they feel the same way! What's the matter with y'all!
Maybe its a generational thing, I would be interested to see how many people who think it is disgusting are under 25?
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reader, Jeanine1234  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Your not the only one in that situation, i hear that all the time! so dont worry :)
Alot of guys do say that its like kissing their penis when kissing a girl after oral sex.
If you find it alright for him to kiss you after hes given you oral sex, then he sould do the same.
If it makes u feel unapreciated, try not to do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): I honestly think it's an age thing. Young guys are just too finnicky about such things but maturity brings about an appreciation of sex in all its' (normal?!) forms.
Sex is a messy, dirty (in a good way) business and I think - the dirtier the better! (But then I'm 'mature'!)
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reader, john15908 +, writes (22 May 2008):
I'm a guy, and that depends. If you "finish him," then yeah, it's kinda gross. But if it's some foreplay before sex, who cares!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): Yeah my boyfriend does not like to be kissed either after oral. I found out when i went down on him for the first time and then when I was done I went to kiss him and he said i dont like being kissed after you do oral on me. I dont know why, if he dont mind the way i taste I dont know why he doesnt want me kissing him when im done. I think a lot of guys are actually like that tho. Just bring your toothbrush with you when you go to his place in case you do some oral. Thats what I do ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): okay as a guy i understand where he is coming from, but if you two are in love then he should kiss you as a reward if this is what makes you happy. my girl and i had this same problem when we stared getting physiacal. it completly freaked me out just the thought of kissing her after but i know how much it means to her to know that i love her and i show my appreciation for her by kissing her after all her hard work ;)... he should understand that it means something to you and if you are going to put your mouth on it (because you are only doing it for his plesure, to make him happy) then he should be more appricitive.
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reader, trixi +, writes (22 May 2008):
 i think he's being childish.
if he doesn't want to kiss you afterwards then tell him you wont bother doing it then.
plenty of lads are fine with kissing you afterwards.
let your boyf know this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): If your mouth is clean enough to kiss his penis, it should be clean enough to kiss him too. If he dirties your mouth through oral sex, then maybe you should stop performing it on him.
Your mouth is clean, if his body is clean. If this this is not the case or he dosen't feel this way. Then end all kisses between you both, until he dose. You gave him your kisses, he should give you kisses back as a reward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): I can understand how you're feeling honey, and it's not nice! My guy has been a bit hesitant once or twice, but it's nice to be appreciated after you've pleased him! Talk to him about it, but if he's still not willing to cooperate, then maybe have a drink handy and some chewing gum. This will act as kind of washing your mouth out and takes the taste away... if there is one! Or of course, if you really want to just be able to kiss him, try what Undisclosed said! Great advice from him. Suggest that you shouldn't give him head any longer as you value his kisses as you love him! See if this changes his mind, even if you don't mean it :] good luck honey. Us girls need to sort our men out!! All the best.
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reader, holymans  +, writes (22 May 2008):
I agree with Unfair...just tell him that you won't do it until he at least agrees to kiss with you after. I personally like when my wife does this and I know of a few men that feel the same..but I also accept that not all men like it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): ya all but two of the guys Ive dated havent wanted to kiss after a bj...
to be fair though, i hate guys putting their fingern in my mouth after theyve been fingering me so its only fair really... i mean eating your own stuff isnt really that nice lol!
Soory hun but bring a toothbrush or at least some water and a pack or gum before you go for the kissing! :-D
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reader, jabey +, writes (22 May 2008):
dont worry, a lot of men are not to keen on tasting their own sperm, i think this is quite natural for some. I|n sex we must always respect someones feelings, not everyone is the same. Y|ou say you expect a reward as in kissing after giving head. really you should give not to receive, some women dontlike kissing their partner after he has been down on them it can work both ways. dont worry about ift its finexxxxx
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reader, Undisclosed +, writes (22 May 2008):
 You're not over-reacting at all. He's getting head for god's sake!"You know X, I've thought about what you said and agree that kissing your penis would be gross which is why I don't think we shouldn't do it anymore."He might be a little more receptive to your suggestions at this point.Kissing is expected at a minimum. It would be ridiculous to expect a double standard here especially when he's on the receiving end. You could always do it with a condom but that really doesn't feel like anything. You've got to give a little if you want a little.
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Not all, but I think that most of us do.
Unfair, isn't it?
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