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writes:I am 21 years old and I just found out I'm pregnant. My family is happy for me, but my boyfriend, who is 20 is freaking out. He won't tell his parents because he's scared of their reaction. Is there anything I can do to help him with this? Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 May 2008):
 If you allow him the liberty to tell his parents,
you will be disappointed.
He will not be able to bring himself to do that because of his immaturity.
The baby bulge will show at 24 weeks.
It is better to tell early than late.
His fear of his parents maybe unfounded.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your replies so far. I'm going to let him decide on when to tell his parents. What I'm worried about, is that he may not want to go through with this pregnancy. But I don't think I have it in me to terminate it, nor do I want to.
He thinks he's losing out on his youth and he's scared that he won't be a good provider. I understand where he's coming from, but I don't know what I can do or say to help him with this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): They need to know at some point, because babies usually appear at around 40 weeks! so there is no disguising that one. He needs to get a grip of the situation because he is about to become a daddy. Ask him if he would like you to go along with him, if not, then dont pressurise him. I can bet though that they will be fine with the idea, but he need to tell the sooner rather than later, and before someone else does.
take care
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reader, Emaz help  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Give him time but gently pursuade him to tell them and tell him that it's a good thing that you are pregnant and that his parents will think so too
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reader, sexi  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Hi
This is a hard situation for you. I know a girl that was pregnant and her bf was hesitant to tell his parents eventually she picked up the phone and told his mom. Now everything has turmed out ok for them, they are married and living together. Im not sure if this would be the case for you as you could upset your bf and then it could cause problems for him at home. Speak to your bf and ask him if he would prefer that you tell his parents? You could also ask your parents to go with you to his home to break the news to his family. You could suggest that your parents invite his parents to your home. Just speak to your bf and come up with a solution together.
Regards,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (22 May 2008):
Since he is unable do it , you will have to be the stork to bring the good news to his mother..
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reader, jabey +, writes (22 May 2008):
i suggest dont push him into telling his parents yet. Explain to him that you are there for him, and encourage him to face his fear. H|e will tell them when he feels ready and pressure from you will make him feel worse. T|ell him you understand how scared he will feel, then explain that his parents although will be maybe shocked, dissappointed, in the long run they will accept the news. and if they love him will stand by you both.
Offer to be with him when he tells them, and also be happy if he wishes to do it alone.
Youare being very caring considering his feelings and caring about him. im happy for you that your parents have been supportive, he has that on his side. e|ncourage him to see the postives and express these when he announces the news. Good luck xxxx
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