Am I just being crazy or are my feelings somewhat valid?

Tagged as: Long distance, Troubled relationships

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Question - (5 April 2011)

1 Answers - (Newest, 5 April 2011)

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Well, I've been in a LDR with my bf for a little over a year now. I go to school away from home and have my own place, which makes it easier for him to come and visit as he has a place to stay with me.

Now I'm faced with the decision of going to a school closer to home and living with my parents or to stay where I'm at. I know my living at home will make things much more difficult between my bf and I, because my parent's are strict and wouldn't allow him to come stay at my house or for me to stay anywhere except home.

I mentioned my concerns about it being harder on us if I moved back home and all he had to say was for me to do what's best for me. Now, I always overthink everything and him not having any more to say upset me because I felt like he didn't care and that it could potential be an easy way out for him when things got rough, he could just blame me for moving back home, etc. So I told him that and he said that of course he's not gonna leave and that he'd rather I keep my own place but he doesn't want me to regret not going to the school I want and that "he doesn't want to have an effect on major decisions in my life, not yet anyway."

For some reason, I was still upset. He doesn't want to affect major decisions yet?? Are we just going to lead our own lives and never consider the other? I just don't get it. I know I should appreciate the fact that he cares and just wants me to do what's best for me, but at the same time, I just feel like he's telling me to do what I want because he's not planning to be around for the long-term, so don't make him a part of my decision because I'll have to live with it and he won't.