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writes:Did I just make the biggest mistake of my life? I got married to a woman I havn't even known for 3 months. I should have thought it through more because this is horrible now. I didnt realize all that came with being married. She is even 6 years older than me. Whats even worse is she has a 3 year old. The bio father is a dirt bag and dissapeared but is now back in her life and gets to see and talk to the kid now occasionally. We have been married for 5 months and we fight every single day. Ive gotten kicked out of the house 2 times already because our arguements are so bad im sure one of us would end up hurt if I didnt leave. I almost feel like I hate her. I kind of feel manipulated because she had all these excuses of why she just "had" to get married. Since im in the military. I had her moved to where im stationed at and it makes it even worse because now she has no one to depend on except me. So now I dont even want to but now I have to support this woman. I suggested we get divorced but she doesnt want to. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): Try to get the marriage annuled. That way you cut all ties, including legal, with her.
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (2 October 2008):
 i think the ogriginal poster of this question has posted another question..as an anonymous male..
so here is my answer to his recent question.. i don't know if they are expensive..but you have to do it in all cases.it would be better then bieng stuck with her for the rest of your life!:)take careXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): Hi
Reminds me of the old marry in haste repent at leisure, aghhhhhh sounds not very good and you need to sort this out pretty quick. First try talking and seeing if you can both work things out, if not divorce and HELP her to get back home call her freinds or family. then say goodbye.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): Well, dear, a nice little pot, eh? My hubby and I married after knowing each other a brief 5 months, and I am EIGHT years older than he. We are very happy now, but let me tell you, sir, those first six months were VERY trying. Kind of like the clash of the titans. Two independent people all of a sudden married and dealing with each others little (and big) faults. But we sat and talked it to bloody death, again and again, reached past the anger and hurt, and love more now than ever before. It can be done, and a very wonderful relationship may be created, but you both need to want it very much. Commitment is key. Don't fall for the "honeymoon" period nonsense. The first 6 months is a doozy....
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): I guess at the time when we were getting to know each other, She made me feel good. I was lonely at the time and when she came into my life and started doing the little nice things that I wasnt used to, I thought "hey what the hell, it look like were good for each other". She brought up the topic of marriage and I said no at 1st from pure common sense, but she kept pushing and pushing and here I am lol :(. I just knew with my current income and my immature views on some things, I wasnt ready for marriage, but she just seemed then like she didnt care about all that. And now I do kinda feel trapped but then she acts all nice and I think it isnt so bad.... for a few hours at least lol. I dont even know the 1st step to divorce though, I heard its extremely expensive, is it?
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reader, passionatelynumb +, writes (1 October 2008):
 Get out of this relationship before she gets pregnant!
Since she already knows you are thinking about divorce, it would be very easy for her to conveniently forget to take her pill if you know what I mean. Once a child is brought into this world, you'll be dealing with her for the rest of your life.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (1 October 2008):
 Ey? This is probably the daftest thing ive ever read on here, you didn't know someone more than 3 months and you married them?
I cant imagine how she talked you into that one!
Split and get divorced after 2 yrs seperation. What a car crash.
C xxxxx
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reader, lilgirly +, writes (1 October 2008):
get a divorce..i don't think that you have to spend the rest of your life like this.. you deserve to be happy.. so get it done as fast as you can!maybe you can help her after you get the divorce.... good luck.. and please keep us updatedXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, suzanne kiker +, writes (1 October 2008):
i just dont want to have to pay most bills and hear about what i need to provide-it feels that way sometimes i just want the same effort and someone who can pay their way through hard work same as me
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): Irrespective of whether she wants a divorce or not I think you should go for one. It sounds to me like she married you for your paycheck.
See a lawyer and get yourself a happy aura once more.
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